3. Try some visualization.
嘗試一些形象化

This technique helps me with the idiots I have to see on a regular basis. Visualization essentially gives you some much-needed boundaries to protect yourself from the cannon that could be fired at the next family function. You have to experiment to find the right kind of visualization for you. For example, you could visualize yourself in a bubble, where absolutely nothing can hurt you. It resembles a mother’s womb — a place many of us would like to revisit. Or you can envision the idiot in a bubble. Whatever she tries to launch at you isn't able to penetrate the protective force.
這個方法幫我對付一些經常遇見的傻瓜。形象化基本上讓你獲得更多需要的界限來保護自己不受別的家庭作用的詆毀。你不得不嘗試為自己找到合適的形象。例如，你可以把自己看做一個密閉的泡泡，完全沒有東西能傷害到你。它就像母親的子宮——一個我們都希望能再次探訪的地方。或者你也可以把傻瓜看成一個泡泡。不論她嘗試對你做什么，也不能穿透這個保護的力量。

My recent visualization is to imagine that the deemed idiot is made of stone. Why? Because I am continually frustrated that she doesn't respond with more compassion. Visualizing her as a statue of ivory stone reminds me to keep my expectations in check and that she can't take away my self-esteem or self-worth just by her cold, stoic way of being.
我最近想象那些傻瓜都是石頭做的。為什么？因為我總是沮喪地發現她很少有同情的一面。把她看成一尊象牙石能隨時提醒我審視自己的預期，她冷淡和漠視的方式不能損壞我的自尊和價值。