1. Expect nothing.
不要期待任何

If you expect your cousin to understand your bipolar disorder, then you are going to be disappointed when your cousin doesn't understand your bipolar disorder. But if you sit down to lunch with her fully expecting her to space out on 90 percent of the conversation, you won't walk away from the table bummed out that she didn't inquire about your manic cycle. Or know that it doesn't have anything to do with a washing machine. I think Sylvia Plath was referring to idiots when she said, “If you expect nothing from anybody, you're never disappointed.” That goes for parents, in-laws, siblings, pets, spouses, children, and ministers.
如果你期待你的表兄妹理解你有兩極性格混亂，那么你會(huì)失望的，他們根本就不這混亂。但是假如你坐著吃完午飯時(shí)候她期望她能控制90%的對(duì)話，那么你將不會(huì)為她沒(méi)有問(wèn)問(wèn)你的躁狂周期而沮喪的離開(kāi)。或者知道這與洗衣機(jī)沒(méi)有關(guān)系的。我覺(jué)得Sylvia Plath說(shuō)這句“如果你不從任何人期望任何東西，那么你就從不會(huì)失望。”的時(shí)候，她是在說(shuō)傻瓜。這句話對(duì)于父母，親戚，兄弟姐妹，寵物，配偶，孩子和傭人，都是一樣的。