禮節美語——Body Language III

公司主管Andy又請專門研究肢體語言的Monica給公司銷售員 Sara和James培訓。Andy說：

Andy: This morning we once again have business consultant Monica Wolf with us. Monica is going to speak to us today about body language and how it affects business relationships.

Monica: Hello again everyone! So....did you experiment with some of the pointers I gave you last time?

Sara: I did. I found that making a conscious effort to look people in the eye has been very useful. I think people find me more trustworthy now.

M: That's great!

Monica問大家有沒有嘗試著把上次她教的東西用到實踐中去。她用到的一個名詞 pointer 意思是指點，建議。Sara說，她發現，講話時有意識地看著對方的眼睛真的很有幫助，別人會覺得她更可靠，讓人信得過，trustworthy. 上面那段話里另一個語言點是，to make a conscious effort to do something 意思是有意識地去做某事。James說，

J: I've been working on my posture. I find when I stand up straight with my shoulders back, I actually feel more confident going into a business negotiation.

V: Wonderful! I'm so glad you applied the principles I shared with you. Today let's talk a little bit about attitude. What's the first thing you notice about a character like James Bond?

J: He's very cool and composed.

S: Yeah, he doesn't ever seem to get too worked up over anything.

James說，他也在有意識地改進自己的站姿和儀表，而且他發現，挺胸抬頭，真地會給自己平添一份自信。Monica聽說大家把上次講到的理論付諸實踐，很高興，說今天就來談談工作時的態度 attitude, 她問大家英國特工007 James Bond有什么特點。James和Sara都說，007很酷，很鎮定，composed, 處變不驚。這里用到的一個短語 worked up 是形容詞，意思是興奮，激動。Monica 說：

M: That's right! The reason he's so cool is because he's in charge of the situation and he knows it. People who are in charge don't get overly excited. So, what I recommend is that you try to appear to be in control by maintaining composure. If you find yourself in a very stressful business negotiation try to limit your body gestures and control the tone of your voice.

S: So even if I don't feel confident, I should try to fake it?

M: Yes. You'll be surprised that even if you're faking, you'll start to feel more in control. Try to reveal as few of your emotions as possible.

A: But of course you still have to appear friendly.

M: Absolutely. But like a poker player, you don't want to show your cards.

Monica說，James Bond 007 之所以老是那么淡定，是因為他知道，情況都在自己的掌握之中，所以建議大家一定要保持情緒的穩定，參加十分棘手的談判時，要 limit your body gestures and control the tone of your voice 盡量減少肢體動作，控制自己的音調，越少暴露自己的情緒越好，就好象是在打撲克牌，不能讓別人知道你手里的牌。

A: 原來，淡定的氣場是這么練成的。First, you have to fake it!

B: Yeah, you'll fool not only others but also yourself into believing that you're in charge of the situation.

A: 這也就是心理暗示的作用吧!

B: Monica also said we should reveal as few emotions as possible.

A: 我倒覺得不用這么裝 cool, 這不就沒有親切感了么？

B: I'm with you there. Being a businessperson is really intense.

A: 沒錯。所以現在咱們輕松一下，去聽American Sports English!

Y: Something smells good.

P: I've prepared some steak today for the tailgating party I'm having.

Y: 雖然我不知道什么是tailgating party，可是我想知道Am I invited？

P: Of course you are invited. Yang Chen. Tailgating is when football fans gather outside the football stadium in the parking lot, and they host barbecue parties before, during and after the game.

Y: 你說tailgating party是在比賽之前，比賽進行當中，比賽之后；那些fans還要不要進去看球啊?

P: That's a great question. The best thing about a tailgating party is you don't have to pay. You are outside, you are watching the game,

Y: In the parking lot.

P: That's right. A lot of people just stay in the parking lot. And they've got food and drinks, and the whole party is centered around the car that they drive in.

Y: So it's free.

P: Oh yeah.

Y: 那為什么叫tailgating party?

P: The tail of the car,

Y: 車尾巴。

P: Right, it's the end of the car. Usually we sit on the end of the car,

Y: 就是車尾派對。

P: We have our snacks, our barbecue, our drinks; you listen to the radio, and watch the TV; it's a big party. It's great. Just a minute, Yang Chen. I need to go put my face paint on. OK, I'm back.

Y: (Screaming)

P: What are you so afraid of?

Y: You look like a clown. 你臉上花花綠綠的是什么東西？

P: I'm not a clown. Yang Chen. I'm a fan. I'm a super fan.

A: Tailgate party! Sounds like fun! I've never been to such parties!

B: Really? My family like to go to tailgate parties during football season. You should join us next time!

A: 好啊! 那我臉上畫什么圖案？要不我畫個京劇臉譜？

B: Ah? The Beijing Opera Mask is really cool, but for tailgate parties, we don't need to go that far. 畫你喜歡球隊的隊標就可以了!

A: I see! That's gonna be so much fun! 好, 這次節目時間到了。這次的撰稿人是小北，編輯是蔚然。同學們，我們下次再見！

B: See you!