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A lack of response to dependency needs, poor nutrition, brutality, unhappy relationships, disease, continuing disappointments, inadequate physical care, and traumatic events are among the many experiences that contribute to making people losers. Such experiences interrupt, deter, or prevent the normal progress toward autonomy and self-actualization. To cope with negative experiences a child learns to manipulate himself and others. These manipulative techniques are hard to giveup later in life and often become set patterns. A winner works to shed them. A loser hangs on to them.
對依賴需求的缺乏反應(yīng)、營養(yǎng)不良、野蠻行為、不愉快的人際關(guān)系、疾病、連續(xù)不斷的失望、對身體照料的不足以及造成心靈創(chuàng)傷的事件等都屬于促使人們成為失敗者的眾多經(jīng)歷之列。這類經(jīng)歷會中斷、妨礙或阻止通向自立和自我實(shí)現(xiàn)的正常進(jìn)程。為了對付種種反面的經(jīng)歷，一個孩子學(xué)會了控制自己和操縱別人。這些操縱人的技術(shù)很難在以后的人生中放棄，于是往往便成為固定的模式。勝者努力去擺脫它們，而失敗者卻緊緊抓住它們不放。
A loser represses his capacity to express spontaneously and appropriately his full range of possible behavior. He may be unaware of other options for his life if the path he chooses goes nowhere. He is afraid to try new things. He maintains his own status quo. He is a repeater. He repeats not only his own mistakes, he often repeats those of his family and culture.
失敗者壓制其自發(fā)而恰當(dāng)?shù)乇磉_(dá)全部可能行為的能力。如果他選擇的人生道路走不通，他可能意識不到還有別的選擇。他害怕嘗試新的東西。他維持著自己的現(xiàn)狀不圖進(jìn)取。他是個重復(fù)者。他不僅重復(fù)自己的錯誤，還常常重復(fù)其家族和其民族文化的錯誤。
