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Or in a grand…You know, in a large schema of things, does it really matter?
或者更久…… 從長遠來看 它真的很重要嗎
Is it worth my worrying, and fretting, and being depressed and upset and anxious about this now?
它真的值得我去擔(dān)心、焦慮、為之沮喪、為之焦躁嗎
Is this really going to matter in a year? And most of the times, it won't matter.
它在一年之后真的會有影響嗎 通常情況下都不會
The other side of this is that well, then does anything matter?
從另一方面說 有什么是真的重要的嗎
A few years ago, I was asked a very simple question by a friend.
幾年前 有個朋友問了我一個非常簡單的問題
And he said, "you know, just…" You know we haven't talked about before-this was a close friend.
他說 我們之前從來沒聊過這個的 他是我很好的朋友
But…"Can you tell me what psychological maturity is?
但也沒聊過 “你能告訴我心理成熟是什么嗎
From your research, can you think about what psychological maturity is?"
通過你的研究 你能想明白心理成熟到底是什么嗎？”
And off-the-cuff, at that moment-over time I revise the definition a little bit-
就在這一霎那 就在當(dāng)時 后來我又對這個定義做了些修飾
I said the following: Psychological maturity is about the ability to willingly shift perspective.
我當(dāng)時這么說 心理成熟就是根據(jù)自己的意愿轉(zhuǎn)換角度的能力
And I think it's more or less right. Again, looking at the research about this ability to shift perspective.
我覺得這差不多是對的 基于這些關(guān)于轉(zhuǎn)換角度的能力的研究
Why? Or what is this ability to shift perspective?
為什么 這種轉(zhuǎn)換角度的能力是什么
It's the ability when we want to be immersed in the here and now, in the present.
這就是我們希望沉浸在當(dāng)下的一種能力
And it's the ability to, when we want, take a step back, zoom out both in time and in space,
也正是我們退一步 時間和空間上都退一步
and ask the question, "is this really going to matter? Or in a year?
問這樣的問題 “它真的有影響嗎 一年之后呢
Or in a grand schema of things, space? Is this really important?"
或者更長遠來看呢 它真的很重要嗎”
And at the same time, go back almost at will. Have this flexibility to go back
同時隨心所欲地回來 能夠靈活地將思緒拉回來
and be immersed when listening to a beautiful piece of music, or spending time with people we love.
沉浸于聆聽一首美妙的歌 或者和我們所愛的人一起
