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The first step is to give myself permission and that would mean
第一步就是給自己許可證 也就是說
accepting of the emotion, accepting that is difficult, accepting reality.
接受這樣的感情 接受這個(gè)困境 接受現(xiàn)實(shí)
Something just happened; there is nothing I can do about what had just happened.
它已經(jīng)發(fā)生了 我對(duì)此什么也做不了
What can change is perhaps my interpretation of what had happened which is where I get to the next level.
能夠改變的只有我對(duì)它的詮釋 這時(shí)我就會(huì)進(jìn)入下一個(gè)層次
The next step. And this is reframing, interpreting the situation as Positive.
到下一步 也就是重建 將情況詮釋為積極的
And that would be the benefit finder.
這就是積極者
What's the silver lining here? What is the growth opportunity here?
這其中有什么閃光點(diǎn) 其中有什么成長(zhǎng)的機(jī)會(huì)
So if I am going through a very difficult time,
所以如果我經(jīng)歷了困境
perhaps look at it through the Buddhist perspective and say,
也許可以用佛教的眼光來看待
"well, this is a tool for growth; this will help me better understand myself as well as others,
“這是成長(zhǎng)的工具 這可以幫助我更好地了解自己 了解他人
become a better psychologist, become a better business person, whatever it is.
成為一個(gè)更好的心理學(xué)家 成為一個(gè)更好的商人 諸如此類
Seeing it again, the silver lining, the opportunity in failure.
再次發(fā)掘出失敗中的閃光點(diǎn) 失敗中的機(jī)會(huì)
And finally, one very important technique that we didn't talk about much,
最后 我們沒怎么提到的一個(gè)非常重要的技巧
just in passing, is distracting, distraction; is looking toward other place.
就粗略提到過的 就是分心 將注意力轉(zhuǎn)向別處
It's not always good. In fact, we will talk about next time it's sometimes
這不一定是件好事 我們下節(jié)課會(huì)講到 有時(shí)
detrimental to stay and analyze every single emotion, feeling, thought that comes up.
執(zhí)著于分析每種情感、感覺和想法是有害的
Ruminating in and of itself does not always help.
反復(fù)思考并不一定有幫助
Sometimes the best thing to do is when a negative thought comes up,
有時(shí)最好的方法就是當(dāng)消極的想法
or a negative feeling comes up is to distract ourselves from it by,
或者負(fù)面的情緒出現(xiàn)時(shí) 將我們的注意力轉(zhuǎn)到別處去
for example, going to listen to a piece of music, going for a run,
比如說 聽聽音樂 跑個(gè)步
talking to someone either about that or something else.
和別人聊聊這件事或者別的事
