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And finally, another way to, to help other people is remembering what Carol Dweck was all about.
最后還有一種幫助別人的方式 回憶一下卡羅爾·徳韋克的研究
Rewarding effort. Rewarding the journey.
工作回報(bào) 過(guò)程的回報(bào)
It is so easy to fall into the track of rewarding outcome,
很容易陷入對(duì)結(jié)果的回報(bào)之中
and so easy to forget to reward the journey.
也很容易忘記回報(bào)過(guò)程
I know that's difficult in child rearing with my kids.
我在撫養(yǎng)我的小孩時(shí)就覺(jué)得很困難
And it's certainly difficult in a relationship.
在感情之中也很難做到
It's certainly difficult being the boss or a friend.
作為上司或者朋友當(dāng)然也很難
But to really focus on rewarding the journey, on pointing out
但一定要注意回報(bào)過(guò)程 要指出來(lái)
"oh this was a great attempt" or "this was so much fun doing it"-the process.
“這是個(gè)不錯(cuò)的嘗試” 或者“這真是太有趣了” 注重過(guò)程
I want to end this lecture by introducing a mini summary of the course so far.
我想通過(guò)做一個(gè)對(duì)至今為止所講內(nèi)容的小小總結(jié)來(lái)結(jié)束這個(gè)話(huà)題
This is a technique-quite a simple technique, but a technique that I found very powerful.
這是個(gè)技巧 一個(gè)很簡(jiǎn)單的技巧 但我發(fā)現(xiàn)是個(gè)很有用的技巧
Because what it does is synthesize a lot of what we discussed until now in the course.
因?yàn)樗軌蛘衔覀兡壳盀橹顾?jiàn)過(guò)的所有內(nèi)容
And this specific technique I apply to difficult situations
我將這個(gè)技巧應(yīng)用于各種困境中
when I'm facing periods in my life and it could be a long period
當(dāng)我在面對(duì)人生中很困難的一段時(shí)期 可能是很長(zhǎng)的一段時(shí)期
or one day that is very difficult for me.
也可能是很困難的一天時(shí)
You know, when I'm experiencing anxiety or stress,
當(dāng)我感受到焦慮或壓力
or strong levels, or high levels of disappointment.
或者深深的失望時(shí)
And this is the alternative in many ways to the three Ms-so remember the three Ms?
這是除了三個(gè)M之外的另一種選擇 還記得三個(gè)M嗎
Magnifying. Minimizing. And Making-up, inventing.
放大 減小 以及編造 發(fā)明
So the three Ps are the alternative. The first p is the Permission to be human.
三個(gè)P則是另一種選擇 第一個(gè)P就是準(zhǔn)許自己為人
So if I experience a difficult experience, I have some…I go through a hard time.
如果我經(jīng)歷了困難 我遇到了挫折
