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Now this is very different from avoiding. Because it is not about saying,
這和逃避是很不一樣的 因為這并不是說
"all right, I am not going to deal with any of the issues in my life."
“好吧 我一輩子不要再管這種事了”
It's just saying that if there is a recurrent thought or feeling,
這只是說如果某種情緒或想法反復出現
and I'm experiencing a Sisyphean battle against it-you know,
我永遠都在徒勞地抗爭
pushing the stone up and being pushed down again, up and down again.
把石頭推上去 然后又被推下來 上上下下
Sometimes it is better, more helpful to just say, "OK, I'm not going to ruminate; it's pointless.
有時更好 更有用的方法是 “好吧 我不要再反復想了 這沒有意義
This neural pathway in my mind is being so reinforced. It's not going anywhere."
這個神經通路在我腦海中太強烈了 不會有任何出路的”
And then to say, "let me move on. Let me listen to a nice piece of music.
然后說 “讓我繼續前進吧 讓我去聽首好歌
Let me go for a run that will really help get my mind off this."
讓我去跑個步 好讓我能夠真正忘記它”
And very often what a run can do is also help me look at it in a different, through a different lens.
很經常地 跑步還能使我從全新的角度來看待這件事
And we'll talk about it, much more about this distraction,
我們會更深入地探討這個分心
because it's nuanced, meaning we are not about avoiding.
因為差異非常微小 并不是逃避
So we'll talk about it next, on Thursday when we talk about
我們下節課 周四講到
dealing with depression or dealing with anxiety, using meditation,
處理沮喪 或者焦慮時 會用到冥想
using mindfulness as a kind of distraction. But that's also one way of looking at the positive.
用念來分心 但那也是一種積極對待的方式
And finally, the third p is about taking Perspective.
最后 第三個P是指換個角度
Is this really gonna matter? This is Richard Carlson's wonderful self-help book,
這真的很重要嗎 理查德·卡爾森寫了一本很好的自助書
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff…and it's all Small Stuff.
別為小事傷神 一切皆是小事
Now I don't necessarily agree with the second-it's all small stuff,
我不完全同意后半句 一切皆是小事 但很顯然
but certainly a lot of things that we sweat about in our lives are small stuff.
許多生活中我們為之傷神的事都是小事
Now the issue with not sweating the small stuff
要不為小事傷神
is asking a simple question: is this going to matter in a year?
就要問一個簡單的問題 它在一年后會不會有影響
