評論
打印
Can one of the TFs-do you mind seeing what it is, please? Thanks, John.
有助教能查查看它到底怎么了嗎 謝謝 約翰
The next thing, after we accept it, we go ahead and change it.
下一步 在接受它之后 我們就去改變它
And we go ahead and change it by introducing behavior. The key issue here is behavior.
我們要通過建立行為來改變它 這里的關鍵在于行為
Now one of the things that I did as I told you last time
我上節課講過的一件我做過的事
was started to solicit feedback from people, started to solicit criticism.
就是向別人尋求反饋 尋求批評
Initially, literally I need to catch myself from responding, from attacking back.
一開始我要控制自己不去回答 不去頂嘴反駁
Why? Because criticism is the deviation from a straight narrow, from that schema.
為什么 因為批評是對直線箭頭的偏離 偏離那個基模
But over time I got used to it. It actually helped me.
但我逐漸習慣了 這真的幫到了我
And now I'm much open to criticism.
我現在更能夠包容批評
Still, sometimes catch myself when I want to respond and attack back.
然而 我有時仍會想回答 想頂嘴反駁
But overall, I got better through behavior changing attitude.
但總體來說 我通過改變態度的行為變得更好
Something else-putting myself on the line more,
還有一點 使自己更經常處于水平線上
whether it's the story that I told you about Brittany,
包括我跟你們講的關于布列塔尼的故事
who said no a few consecutive times. And that's OK. So she said no.
連續說了幾次不 但沒關系 她說不
I'm still here. I survived. Learn to fail or fail to learn.
我還在這 我還活著 屢戰屢敗 屢敗屢戰
Next, we don't always have to act out in the world;
下一步 我們不一定要外在地表現出行為
we can also act in our internal simulator-the mind doesn't know
我們也可以在內心中模擬 你的思想是無法
the difference between the real thing and the imaginary thing.
分辨現實和想象的區別的
And therefore, I can imagine myself, see myself, acting as a person committed to excellence.
因此我可以想象自己 幻想自己 就像一個追求卓越的人一樣
So for example, before teaching, one of the things that I visualize
比如說在上課之前 我想象的一件事就是
is seeing myself there on the stage, feeling light, calm
假想我自己站在臺上 感覺很輕松 冷靜
and accepting-in other words, a way that a person committed to excellence would,
并且很包容 換句話說 想象追求卓越的人會用的方式
as opposed to a perfectionist would be constantly afraid of failure.
而非總是害怕失敗的完美主義者
