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Now the question is, "how do we overcome this perfectionism, this constant knot in our stomach?
而問題在于 “我們如何克服完美主義這個解不開的結呢”
How do we overcome this living in the future,
我們如何克服活在未來中的感覺
being afraid of the present because what if I fail?
因為害怕失敗而害怕當下的感覺
And I started to describe a few methods: the first one is
我講了一些方法 首先是
being aware of it-being aware of what I want to change and what I want to maintain.
認識它 認識到我想改變什么 我想保持什么
Remember Ellen Langer's study-about getting a more nuance understanding
還記得埃倫·蘭格的研究嗎 關于更確切地了解
of what it is that I want to change. Because for very long time, I couldn't,
我到底想改變什么 因為長久以來
couldn't become less of a perfectionist because associated with
我都是個完美主義者 因為總是想著
perfectionism, with also success, my subconscious were stopping me
完美 總是想著成功 我的潛意識讓我沒法
from letting go of perfectionism because I thought that also means
擺脫完美主義 因為我會認為那就意味著
throwing out baby with bath water, i.e. my success.
把寶寶和洗澡水一起沖走了 也就是成功被沖走了
But now that I have a more nuance understanding of perfectionism
但現在我更確切地了解了完美主義
which is an incapacitating fear of failure,
它就是一種對失敗的無法抑制的恐懼
and I understand that I can still be as ambitious and not give up my success,
我明白了我仍然可以充滿抱負 而無需放棄成功
and yet enjoy the process-that's a better understanding.
同時享受這個過程 這是更好的理解
And now I can move forward. So the first step is awareness.
這樣我就能繼續前進 因此第一步就是認識
After we have awareness, it's about going back to Dweck's notion of rewarding effort.
在我們獲得了認識之后 就是徳韋克關于工作回報的概念
Remember, Carol Dweck was able to change students
記住卡羅爾·徳韋克能夠在短短幾小時內
and adult's mind set with as little as a few hours.
就改變學生和成人的思維模式
And sometimes, this mind set has been set in them from a very young age.
有時候 這些思維模式在他們非常小的時候就已經奠定了
The fixed versus the malleable mind set. And Carol Dweck by teaching them
思維模式是固定的 還是可塑的 卡羅爾·徳韋克通過教他們
the malleability, the neuroplasticity-how our brain constantly changes
可塑性 神經的可塑性 我們的大腦是時刻在變化的
by teaching them that to focus on the journey, on the effort,
通過教他們關注過程 關注所付出的努力
as opposed to the outcomes, as opposed to the intelligence,
而不是結果 或者最后的成就
was able to change their mind set.
從而改變他們的思維模式
