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And she says "that's OK. That's natural. That's human." And we need to accept it. Because if we don't accept it, then we'll be constantly frustrated. Because we want to change completely, or expect our partner to change completely. Very difficult. Unrealistic. It takes time. It's gradual.
她說“沒關系，那很正常，這是人之常情”我們要接受它，因為如果我們不接受它，我們就會一直感到沮喪，因為我們想完全改變或是期待我們的伴侶完全改變，這非常困難，不切實際，需要時間，要循序漸進。
We need to also learn. And we can learn to enjoy the process.
我們也需要學習，可以學習享受這過程
Henry David Thoreau, 1840s: "I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavor. It is something to be able to paint a particular picture, or to carve a statue, and so to make a few objects beautiful; but it is far more glorious to carve and paint the very atmosphere and medium through which we look, which morally we can do. To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts."
19世紀40年代梭羅說過：“我沒有看到過更使人振奮的事實了，人類無疑是有能力來有意識地提高他自己的生命的，能畫出某一張畫、雕塑出某一個肖像，美化某幾個對象，是很了不起的。但更加榮耀的事是能夠塑造或畫出那種氛圍與媒介來，從中能使我們發現，而且能使我們正當地有所為。能影響當代的本質的，是最高的藝術”
Again, it's the process; it's not the outcome that matters more. The outcome will lead to a spike but will very quickly to go back to our base level. It's the process of actually doing those activities, the As, the Bs, and the Cs that will lead to a happier- not perfect, not happiest, but happier life.
再強調一次，重要的是過程而非結果。結果會讓人有短暫快樂，但很快就會回歸到基礎水平。是進行這些活動的這個過程，事件A、B、C這些過程讓人更快樂——而并非完美，并非最快樂，而是更快樂地生活。
Over time, it takes time to carve out live statue, chipping away the excess stone, the limitations and building a beautiful life.
需要時間來雕刻出生活的雕像，切掉多余的石頭，破除限制，打造美好的生活
