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And it's not enough if we just create a small nook or cranny trying to create a new habit. Because flood would wash it away. What we need is the A, the B and the C. Implement these changes in our lives.
如果我們只是開一個凹角或一條小縫是不足以養成一個新習慣的，因為洪水會將它沖走。我們需要的是結合A、B和C，將這些變化融入我們生活中。
And they are interconnected. So let me give you an example. Let's say someone who has low self-esteem. Low self-esteem, the C- cognition: they don't think highly of themselves. Poor self evaluation.
它們是內部相連的，舉一個例子，例如那些自尊心很弱的人。低自尊心，C——認知：他們會小瞧自己，自我評價低。
When you don't think highly of yourself, you are more likely to be innervated, to feel down, not to be motivated, and as a result of that, that is the Affect, the emotion that you experience- not good feelings; as a result of that, we are much more likely to do nothing- in other words, the B is do nothing.
當你瞧不起自己時，就會比較內向，感覺沒自信，更別說有動力了，也因此而產生不良影響。產生不好的情感，因此很可能會變得碌碌無為。也就是說，B是碌碌無為，通過自我認知理論
Now through self-perception theory, the behavior then affects my cognition on doing nothing: I'm not dealing. I'm not coping. I'm avoiding.
這種行為進而影響我對碌碌無為的認知，我處理不了事情，我逃避事情，
And that lowers my self esteem, even more my evaluation of myself, the C. And that leads to even worse emotions and so on and so on and so on, in a downward spiral, until in some cases, we reach resignation, or in Martin Seligman's words, learned helplessness.
這會使自尊降低，進而使自我評價更低，就是C。這導致更低落的情感，等等，形成一個向下的螺旋，直到在某些情況下，我們自我放棄了，或用馬丁·塞利格曼的話來說，就是“習得性無助”。
Now think of someone who has high self-esteem, high level of self-confidence. I believe in myself. I think I can do well. That leads to high level of motivation.
現在，想想那些自尊心強的人，他們很有自信。我相信自己，我認為我能做好，那樣會導致高水平的激勵。
Remember what Marva Collins does? The model that we talked about under belief, self-fulfilling prophecies- that leads to high levels of motivations, strong emotions. I'm energized.
記得瑪瓦·科林斯是怎么做的嗎？我們講過的關于信仰的模型，自我實現預言、能提高個人動機和導致強烈的情感，我充滿動力。
