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There were gender differences, which is interesting. Now both sexes benefited from it. However, men benefited more than women.
有趣的是，會有性別差異。男女都從中受益，但男士比女士受益更多
Think about it. Why do you think that is? It makes sense, if you think about it. Women benefited significantly got better, but men benefited even more.
試想一下，為什么？仔細想想，其實不無道理，受益的女士狀況大大改善，但男士受益更多
Why? Because women have, generally speaking- again, this is brush stroke stereotype- but generally speaking, women open up more.
為什么？一般來說這是千遍一律的說法，但一般來說，女士敞開得更多
They speak more with their girl friends. They have closer friends and they talk about issues. Men still in our culture today
她們和女伴們談得更多，她們有密友，并對她們傾訴一切。而在今天的文化中，男士
are much more close because it's not cool to open up. It's not cool to give yourself the permission to be human, especially when others are listening.
還是比較保守，因為找人傾訴有點沒面子，準許自己為人不是一件很酷的事，尤其是有其他人在旁時
so women generally in their lives have more this supports systems than man.
因此，在生活中，女士們比男士們更容易獲得支持
But still, even women who have strong supports systems still benefit from this exercise,
但盡管如此，擁有強大支持的女士仍能從這項練習中獲益
which reminds me of another result of a study I mentioned months ago, the beginning of the course, which said women generally,again these are all averages,
這讓我想起了另一項研究的結果————我幾個月前提到過的，在課程開始時提到：一般來說，女人
but in general, women- or rather men benefit more from marriage than women. For similar reason.
我指通常情況，或者說男人，在婚姻中比女人受益更多。也是類似的原因
Because women already have the supports system in place. Men, very often, for the first time they are with someone, who they feel comfortably enough opening up to.
因為女士們原來就有支持系統。而男人，通常這是他們第一次遇到一個讓他們覺得能安心傾訴的人，
Again, both males and females benefit from a long-term relationship, but men generally tend to benefit more than women.
同樣，盡管男女都在長期的戀愛關系中獲益，但還是男士受益比女士多
For the same reason that he found gender difference here. Across cultures. This is done in China,in Japan,Mexico,Argentina,
他發現了因同一個原因而產生的性別差異存在于不同的文化當中，這項研究分別在中國、日本、墨西哥和阿根廷做過
United States of course, Europe- replicated across cultures. In all cultures, people benefit from this study.
當然也包括美國、歐洲等不同文化。不同文化的人們都從該項研究受益
Here is another study, which took the exact opposite approach. So Laura King was a student of Pennebaker,
還有另一項研究，用的是相反的方法。勞拉·金是尼貝克的學生，
took the exact opposite approach and said, "let's study...(inaudible)... to see what happens when the individuals
他用相反的方法來做這項研究，她說，“我們來研究一下…看當人們…
write about their most intensive positive experience. " What she did specifically was taking the instructions from Abraham Maslow's work on peak experience.
寫下最快樂的經歷時會有怎樣的結果?！彼淖龇鞔_地根據亞伯拉罕·馬斯洛關于巔峰經驗的研究
And here are the instructions. Once again, this was three times,15 minutes, so 45 minutes total on three consecutive days.
以下就是做法：三次，15分鐘，連續三天，總共45分鐘
"Think of the most wonderful experience " or experiences in your life, happiest moments, ecstatic moments, moments of rapture, perhaps from being in love,
想出生命中最精彩的經歷；或多次美好的經歷，快樂、興奮的時刻；或墜入愛河極度歡喜的時刻，
or from listening to music, or suddenly ‘being hit’ by a book or painting or from some great creative moment.
或者聽音樂時的歡快時刻；或突然發現一本好書或好畫或突然靈感乍現
Choose one such experience or moment. Try to imagine yourself at that moment, including all the feelings and emotions associated with the experience.
選擇其中一個這樣的時刻，想象自己正經歷這一時刻沉浸在所有與這一經歷有關的感受和情感中
Now write about the experience in as much detail as possible trying to include the feelings, thoughts, and emotions that were present at the time.
盡量詳細地寫下這次經歷，盡量寫下感受和想法及當時產生的情感
Please try your best to re-experience the emotions involved."
盡量嘗試重新經歷那些情感
