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It made no difference to these men. Because by this time, they were much more outgoing.
這對那些男人沒有影響，因為那時，他們已經外向了許多
They were doing well with the opposite sex.
他們與異性相處愉快
They were going on dates. They were less shy. It started a positive spiral. It didn't matter at all.
他們出去約會，他們不再那么內向。這開啟了一個良性循環，已經完全沒關系了
144 minutes changed their lives, as far as the dating was concerned at least, if not more.
144分鐘改變了他們的生活，至少從約會的角度來看
Why? Think back to Bandura's work on self-efficacy.
為什么呢？回憶一下班杜拉對自我效能的研究
Nothing breeds success like success. When they succeeded, they did well, they saw themselves doing well,
沒有比成功本身對成功更好的催化劑。當他們成功時，做得很好時，他們能看到自己做得很好
self-perception theory. Certain conclusions about who they are, what they are and that led to an upward spiral, and continued that upward spiral.
自我知覺理論。關于對自我的認識和感知使他們進入良性循環并且保持這個良性循環
Yeah, we talked about 'fake it till we make it', then watch Marva Collins.
我們剛剛講了"不斷偽造方能成真"，再看看瑪瓦·柯林斯
Chapters of the Fathers. Pirkei Avot. One of the seminal Jewish texts:
先祖倫理。很重要的猶太教教義寫道
Those whose deeds exceed their wisdom, their wisdom shall endure
那些行為超越其智慧的人，他們的智慧將恒久
but those whose wisdom exceeds their deeds, their wisdom shall not endure.
但那些智慧超越其行為的人，他們的智慧無法持久
If we just — remember what I talked about, if we just go to a workshop or a class, and understand it on the cognitive level,
如果能記住我說過的，當我們參加討論會或者上課并從認知水平上理解它
even have an ah ha moment, a break through, nothing will happen, unless we follow our new found wisdom or understanding with deeds, with action.
即便有靈光乍現的時刻，有突破，也不會發生什么。除非我們的行為跟上了，這新閃現的智慧
Why? Because we first make our habits, and then our habits make us.
為什么呢？因為我們首先塑造習慣，然后習慣再反過來塑造我們
And if we are before the workshop or class here, and then our attitude changes but our behavior doesn't,
假設我們在參加學術討論或上課之前是這個水平，然后我們的態度改變了，但行為沒變
our attitude will be pulled down over time by our habits.
態度會隨著時間流逝被習慣又拉回來
