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If I'm happy now, I ignore experiencing pain.
如果我現在很快樂，就意味著我不再經歷痛苦
It means I'm letting go. It means I'm not gonna be successful.
就意味著我放棄了，意味著我不會成功
It means I'm gonna lose my edge. It means I'm gonna lose my drive and ambition.
意味著我已經失去了棱角，意味著我不再有動力和雄心
So our subconscious prefers to keep, keep us unhappy, so that we don't lose the other things that we value highly,
所以我們在潛意識里選擇不快樂，這樣的話，我們就不會失去其它珍貴的東西
things such as ambition, things such as having an edge, things such as our hard work.
比如雄心壯志，比如長處優勢，比如勤奮刻苦
Now of course when we look at them we know that they don't necessarily have to go hand in hand.
當然，依我們現在來看，我們知道這些東西并不是密不可分的
On the contrary, for example, happiness, we know from the broaden and build theory,
正相反，比如說，快樂，我們從"拓延-建構"理論中學到
the positive emotions are actually associated with higher levels of success.
正面的情緒是和成功聯系在一起的
Whereas I'll talk about after spring break, when we talk about perfectionism.
等到春假之后，當我們講到完美主義的時候，我會講一些
We know from research, you'll be able to connect it also in the person. Many of you will be able to connect it in the personal level.
從研究中得來的理論，大家可以把這些理論和你們個人聯系起來。你們中間有很多人會發現可以
We know that letting go of this fear of failure and coping, putting ourselves on the line more,
將其和自身聯系起來，如果我們能趕走對失敗的恐懼，學會面對它
learning from failures looking at it as a, as a stepping stone that contributes to our success in the long term.
學會冒險，從失敗中學習經驗，將失敗看作是未來成功路上的墊腳石
It doesn't need to take away from our drive and ambition on the contrary.
這些都不意味著我們會相應的失去動力和雄心抱負
And the key if we wanna overcome this fear of failure or the worry/anxiety, or the guilt, or
克服對失敗的恐懼，或擔憂焦慮，或罪惡感，或
the slack of happiness, it's very often, not always, very often about understanding,
種種不幸福的關鍵，通常，不一定總是，而是通常是關于理解
or getting a better understanding of these characteristics. For example, understanding that I want to let go of my fear of failure,
或更好的去理解這些品格的含義。舉個例子，要理解，我想要擺脫對失敗的恐懼感
the debilitating fear of failure, not just fear of failure because every one is afraid of failure to some extent.
不是一般的恐懼，而是消磨人意志的恐懼，因為每個人都在某種程度上害怕失敗
