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So I associated a positive trait which is responsibility.
因此我把焦慮和正面品格責任感聯系起來
And remember Brandon? No one is coming?
還記得關于布蘭登的故事嗎
Very important trait, responsibility.
責任感是非常重要的品質
But that prevented me from letting go.
但是它卻阻撓我擺脫擔憂和焦慮
Subconscious level, not conscious of the worry and anxiety that I often experienced.
這都是在潛意識里發生的，我之前并沒有意識到這些
Guilt. Again there is good guilt, there is bad guilt You know, it is.
還有，罪惡感，有好的罪惡感，也有不好的罪惡感
Well, I don't want to get rid of guilt because what that means I'm not being empathic and sensitive toward other people.
我不想擺脫罪惡感，因為我不想變得對他人冷漠無情
Very often we connect the two. They go hand in hand.
我們經常會把這兩者聯系起來
Another couple is the notion of simplifying. This is something very personal to me.
還有一對概念，是精簡化。這也是我的切身體會
I wanted to do less because I knew that taking on too many activities was actually hurting me was hurting my productivity, creativity, well-being.
我想要減少工作量，因為我明白同時參與太多活動，有損于，有損于我的工作效率，創造力和健康
I couldn't simplify. Why? Because I associate it in my mind with losing my edge.
但是我卻沒辦法做到精簡。為什么呢？因為我將它和失去優勢聯系起來
So I didn't let go. Or fault-finding, we talked about this a week ago.
所以我沒辦法做到精簡。還有我們上周談到的尋找過錯
Why do people not let go of fault-finding? Why do they remain pessimistic?
為什么人們不能停止尋找過錯呢？為什么要維持悲觀的態度呢
Because they connect it with the sense of realism. I don't wanna stop being realisic. I don't wanna be one of those detached Pollyannas.
因為他們把尋找過錯和現實主義聯系起來。我不想放棄這種現實的態度。不想變成一個脫離現實盲目樂觀的人
And therefore I don't let go of my fault-finding.
因此我不會放棄尋找過錯的習慣
Happiness. One of the most significant barrier to people's happiness is that they associate happiness with slacking off,
幸福。通往幸福路上最大的障礙就是人們把幸福和偷懶聯系在一起
because the dominant paradigm, the dominant mantra in our culture today is 'no pain, no gain.
因為當今文化中最為人所追捧、所信奉的真理就是"沒有付出就沒有回報"
