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I wasn't brought up saying grace.
我家并沒(méi)有飯前禱告的傳統(tǒng)。
But for the last 20 years, we've been holding hands before every meal.
但在過(guò)去的20年里，每次用餐前我們都會(huì)牽住彼此的手。
It's a beautiful bit of shared silence that brings us all together in the moment.
那是寂靜又美好的時(shí)刻，我們?cè)谀菚r(shí)緊密相依。
Ashton tells everyone to "pass the squeeze," while she assures them it's not religious.
Ashton告訴大家，要緊握彼此，但她保證這并不帶有宗教性質(zhì)。
So recently, when my family asked me if I could please do something with the more than 250 boxes of stuff that I've collected over a lifetime,
最近，當(dāng)我的家人問(wèn)我，我是否能用我一生收集的250多箱東西做點(diǎn)什么時(shí)，
my ritual-making impulse kicked in.
“舉行儀式”的沖動(dòng)再次涌上心頭。
I started wondering if I could go further than simple death cleaning.
我開(kāi)始想，除去死亡清理，我還能再做些什么？
"Death cleaning" is the Swedish term for clearing out your closets, your basement and your attic
“死亡清理”是瑞典的習(xí)俗，在你去世前你會(huì)清理你的壁櫥、地下室和閣樓，
before you die, so your kids don't have to do it later.
這樣你的孩子以后就不用做這些了。
I pictured my children opening up box after box and wondering why I'd kept any of that stuff.
我開(kāi)始想象我的孩子們打開(kāi)一個(gè)又一個(gè)箱子，猜想我為什么要留著這些物什。
And then I imagined them looking at a specific picture of me with a beautiful young woman,
我能想象到當(dāng)他們看著我和一位妙齡女子的合影時(shí)，
and asking, "Who on earth is that with Dad?" And that was the aha moment.
滿腹疑惑“和我爸爸在一起的究竟是誰(shuí)”。這就是“頓悟時(shí)刻”。
It wasn't the things I'd saved that were important; it was the stories that went with them that gave them meaning.
并非是我留下的東西很重要，它背后的故事才是意義所在。
Could using the objects to tell the stories be the seed of a new ritual, a rite of passage
是否可以通過(guò)講述它們的故事，開(kāi)啟一項(xiàng)新儀式，
not for a 13-year-old, but for someone much further down the road?
不再是給13歲準(zhǔn)備的成人禮，而是為了更年長(zhǎng)的人們。
