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But even if mothers are more naturally inclined toward nurturing, fathers can match that skill with knowledge and effort.
但即使母親和孩子之間有著更自然的聯系，父親也可以通過學習育兒知識并付出努力來獲得與母親不相上下的育兒技能。
If women want to succeed more at work and if men want to succeed more at home, these expectations have to be challenged.
如果女性更想在事業上大展拳腳，而她的另一半更想成為優秀的家庭主男，那么傳統觀點就必然會遭到挑戰。
As Gloria Steinem once observed, "It's not about biology, but about consciousness."
正如格洛麗亞·斯泰納姆評論的：“這不是生物學問題，而是意識問題?！?/div>
We overcome biology with consciousness in other areas.
我們已經在用意識克服自身的生物性。
For example, storing large amounts of fat was necessary to survive when food was scarce,
比如，在食物匱乏時存儲大量脂肪是生存的必要條件，
so we evolved to crave it and consume it when it's available.
所以我們會不斷攝取并消耗脂肪。
But in this era of plenty, we no longer need large amounts of fuel in reserve,
但在這個物質充裕的時代，我們的身體不再需要過分儲備“燃料”，
so instead of simply giving in to this inclination, we exercise and limit caloric intake.
而是需要通過鍛煉身體以限制熱量的攝取。
We use willpower to combat biology, or at least we try.
我們正在用意志力來對抗生物性，至少我們在努力嘗試。
So even if "mother knows best" is rooted in biology, it need not be written in stone.
所以，就算“媽媽最明白孩子需要什么”這種說法具有最根深蒂固的生物學基礎，
A willing mother and a willing father are all it requires.
但只要父母雙方愿意，這也不是不可改變的。
Yes, someone needs to remember what goes into the lunch box, but as Katie will attest, it does not have to be Mom.
是的，必須有一個人記得午餐盒里應該放什么，但并不一定必須是母親，凱蒂便是證明。
As women must be more empowered at work, men must be more empowered at home.
當女性需要在工作上發憤圖強時，男性就需要在家里發揮更大的作用。
I have seen so many women inadvertently discourage their husbands from doing their share by being too controlling or critical.
我看過很多女人由于太有控制欲或過于挑剔，結果無意中打擊了男人分擔家務的積極性。
Social scientists call this "maternal gatekeeping," which is a fancy term for "Ohmigod, that's not the way you do it! Just move aside and let me!"
社會科學家把這種現象稱為“固守母職”，意思就是：“天哪，你這樣做不對，放著我來！”
