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So everybody needs a sense for the future, and the Afghan sense of the future is shattered.
所以每一個人都要心系未來。阿富汗人未來的觀念是非常弱的。
But let me repeat the words of the woman.
但是讓我重復一遍那位女士的話。
"Because you have felt me, I can feel myself again."
“因為你說出了我的感受，我重新找回了自己。”
So the key here is empathy. Somebody has to be a witness to what has happened to you.
所以關鍵是共享情緒。需要有人目睹你所經歷的。
Somebody has to feel how you felt. And somebody has to see you and listen to you.
需要有人體會你的感受。需要有人關注你，傾聽你。
Everybody must be able to know what he or she has experienced is true, and this only goes with another person.
每個人都必須知道，發生在他們身上的事情已經發生了。在別人身上也有可能發生。
So everybody must be able to say, "This happened to me, and it did this with me,
每個人都要能夠說，“這件事確實發生了，它對我造成了影響，
but I'm able to live with it, to cope with it, and to learn from it.
但是我可以和它和平共處，我能夠處理好它，并且從中學習。
And I want to engage myself in the bright future for my children and the children of my children,
我想為我的孩子打造一個光明的前程，以及我孩子的孩子，
and I will not marry-off my 13 year-old daughter," -- what happens too often in Afghanistan.
我不會把13的女兒嫁出去。”這種事情在阿富汗經常發生。
So something can be done, even in such extreme environments as Afghanistan.
所以我們能夠做一些事情，即使在阿富汗這樣極端的環境中也是可以做的。
And I started thinking about a counseling program.
我開始設想開展一個咨詢項目。
But, of course, I needed help and funds.
當然我需要助手和資金。
And one evening, I was sitting next to a very nice gentleman in Kabul, and he asked what I thought would be good in Afghanistan.
一天晚上，在喀布爾，當我坐在一位善良的紳士旁邊時，他問我，你認為什么對阿富汗最有幫助。
And I explained to him quickly, I would train psycho-social counselors, I would open centers, and I explained to him why.
我飛快地向他講，我想培訓心理社會咨詢師，我想開辦培訓中心，然后我向他解釋了為什么產生這種想法。
This man gave me his contact details at the end of the evening and said, "If you want to do this, call me."
就在那個晚上那位先生給了我他的聯系方式并且說，“如果你決定開始做，請打我的電話。”
At that time, it was the head of Caritas Germany.
當時，他是慈善德國的負責人。
