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No one can survive alone. And if people feel used, worthless and ashamed,
任何人都無法脫離他人生存。如果人們感覺自己被利用了，沒有價值，感到很羞愧，
because something horrible has happened to them, then they retreat, and they fall into social isolation,
那是因為很多可怕的事情發生在他們身上，之后他們就會退縮，變得孤立于社會之外，
and they do not dare to tell this evil to other people or to their loved ones, because they do not want to burden them.
并且他們不敢把他們這種罪惡的感受告訴他們所愛的人或者其他人，他們不想連累這些人。
And very often violence is a way to cope with it.
通常人們用暴力來解決這些困擾。
Traumatized people also easily lose control -- symptoms are hyper-arousal and memory flashbacks
精神上受創傷的人容易失去控制--其癥狀就是易激惹和不斷回想過去，
so people are in a constant fear that those horrible feelings of that traumatic event might come back unexpectedly, suddenly, and they cannot control it.
所以這些人生活在持續的恐懼中，發生創傷事件時恐怖的體驗會沒有預兆地，突然地再現，沒有辦法控制。
To compensate this loss of inner control, they try to control the outside, very understandably -- mostly the family
為了彌補這種內在的失控感，他們就會試圖控制外界事物，這很容易理解，他們通常控制的就是家庭，
and unfortunately, this fits very well into the traditional side, regressive side, repressive side, restrictive side of the cultural context.
不幸的是，在他們的控制之下，整個文化變得更加傳統，更加落后和壓抑，有了更多的約束。
So, husbands start beating wives, mothers and fathers beat their children, and afterward, they feel awful.
丈夫開始打妻子，爸爸媽媽打孩子，打過之后，他們又感覺很糟糕。
They did not want to do this, it just happened -- they lost control.
他們并不希望這樣做，但是事情就那么發生了。一句話，他們失去了控制。
The desperate try to restore order and normality,
我們竭盡全力在做的修補和復原工作，
and if we are not able to cut this circle of violence, it will be transferred to the next generation without a doubt.
如果無法打破這個暴力循環，這種暴力毫無疑問會傳給下一代。
And partly this is already happening.
事實上，事情已經在這么發生了。
