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19. Give your spouse freedom. We give each other the freedom to do things that give us pleasure independently. Of course, we don’t take advantage of it, but giving your spouse the opportunity to do the things he or she enjoys is important.
給你的伴侶自由，我們給彼此的自由獨立做事,給我們快樂。當然,我們不濫用它,但是給你的配偶機會做他或她喜歡的事情是很重要的。
20. Stay out of debt. Financial stress is the number one cause of divorce. Sit down together and create a budget that you will both stay committed to and don’t allow yourselves to justify spending more money than you make.
遠離債務，金融壓力是造成離婚的原因之一。一起坐下來創建一個預算,您都將保持承諾,不允許自己花更多的錢比你賺的多。
21. Continue growing as people. We are both committed to learning, growing and achieving our personal best. This includes growing as a spouse, parent and individual. As one of us gets better, it helps the other person get better, just as iron sharpens iron.
繼續成長。我們都致力于學習,成長和實現我們的個人最好成績。這包括成長為配偶、父母和獨立的人。作為我們變得更好,它幫助別人變得更好,就像鐵磨鐵。
22. Love your spouse according to his or love language. Read Joy’s post titled, Loving People the Way They Need to be Loved to learn more about the significance of love languages.This is also available as a podcast you can listen to. So just go to littlethingsmatter.com, and in the searching bar type in Loving People the Way They Need to be Loved to learn more about the significance of learning love languages.
根據TA的愛的語言來愛你的伴侶，讀Joy發布的文章標題，愛人需要了解更多關于愛的語言的重要性的方式。你還可以找到關于這篇文章的播客。你需要登錄小事業重要網站，在搜索欄中輸入用對方希望的方式愛他們，然后你就可以知道愛的語言的重要性了。
23. Show your appreciation. In a marriage, it’s easy to take things for granted. Tell your spouse how much you appreciate the little things he or she does for you. Cleaning the house, picking up the dry cleaning, walking the dog, doing the laundry, cooking dinner for the family, and fixing the leaky faucet are just a few examples. Don’t let one good deed go unnoticed.
表達對你的感謝。在婚姻中,很容易將事情視為理所當然。告訴你的愛人你有多欣賞他或她對你的小事情。打掃房子,干洗,遛狗,洗衣服,做飯的家庭,和修復漏水的水龍頭只是幾個例子。不要讓一個好事被忽視。
24. Be honest with each other. Once trust is lost, it is difficult to regain and this adage is especially true in marriage. Being honest also includes being honest with your feelings.
對對方忠誠，一旦誠信丟失，很難收回，這個箴言尤其在婚姻張正確，忠誠也包括忠誠于你自己的感受。
25. No holding grudges. After you work through an issue, move on and don’t harbor ill feelings. We also strongly encourage you to not bring up past challenges. The past is the past. It’s been years since either of us has brought up a negative issue from the past.
不記仇。解決一個問題后,繼續前進,不要增加厭惡感。我們也強烈建議您不提過去。過去是過去。好多年沒有我們從過去帶來了負面的問題。
For those of you who are married, we want to encourage you to review this list with your spouse and discuss the steps you can both take to make to improve your marriage.
對于那些已婚的人,我們想要鼓勵你與配偶看看這個列表和討論你既可以采取的措施來提高你的婚姻質量。
If you are reading this post and you are not yet married, we strongly recommend pre-marital counseling. We suggested this to both of our married children and their spouses and they will readily tell you that it was valuable, enlightening, and set the foundation for the marriage they now enjoy.
如果你正在閱讀這篇文章,你還沒有結婚,我們強烈建議婚前咨詢。我們建議我們的結婚的兩個孩子和他們的配偶,他們會馬上告訴你,這是有價值的的啟發,他們現在享受的婚姻的基礎。
