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7. Serve one another. Be intentional. We are both very thoughtful about the little things we do to serve each other. This is about putting the other person’s needs before your own. The more your serve and meet the needs of your spouse, the more your spouse will serve and meet your needs.
服務(wù)對方?？桃庥眯?。我們都對我們做的小事情非常周到的服務(wù)。這是關(guān)于把別人的需要放在自己的前面。越多你的服務(wù)和滿足你的伴侶的需求,你的配偶會服務(wù)來滿足您的需求。
8. Communicate. Effective communication is critical for any marriage to last. This is especially important during difficult periods. Learn your spouse’s communication style and the way he or she needs to hear what you have to say.Then communicate with them in a way that is consistant with how you've learned they best received your message.
溝通。有效的溝通是至關(guān)重要的任何婚姻持久。在困難時期尤為重要。學(xué)習(xí)你的配偶的溝通風(fēng)格和他或她需要聽到你說什么。然后以你了解到的他們最容易接受的方式和他們溝通。
9. Freedom in intimacy. You know what we mean. Make it a priority.
親密的時候給對方空間。你知道我們的意思。使它優(yōu)先考慮。
10. Take care of yourself. This includes everything from your physical appearance to the clothes you wear. Do your part to be an attractive mate.
照顧好自己。這包括一切從你穿的衣服你的外表，做好吸引你伴侶的部分。
11. Don’t use absolutes. This means not saying things like, “You always…” and “You Never…”.
不要使用絕對。這意味著不要說這些之類的東西,“你總是…”,“你從不…”
Earlier in our marriage,I mean this is something we did talk about. I mean there were times that I would say to her and she would say to me."You always…" or "You Never…", and it immediately put the other person in a defensive positon. So we've made a commitment to not use those words again.
我們剛結(jié)婚的時候，我們的確討論過這件事。我們有時候就是會指責(zé)彼此“你總是……”或“你從來不……”，這立馬讓對方產(chǎn)生了抵觸心理。所以我們都承諾以后不再用這些詞。
12. Be considerate. This means everything from cleaning up your mess to specifically avoiding doing or saying things that you know irritate your spouse.
體貼。這意味著從清理你的混亂的內(nèi)務(wù),特別要避免做或說的事情你知道激怒你的配偶。
13. Understand it takes hard work. Building a marriage of 25 years is not easy. We have had some very difficult periods. We have even had to go to marriage counseling to work through difficult periods. Know there will be challenging times and when they occur, work through them with a genuine desire to improve your marriage.
理解需要努力工作。建立一個25年的婚姻是不容易的。我們有一些非常困難的時期。我們甚至不得不去婚姻咨詢工作度過困難時期。知道會有艱難時期,當(dāng)他們發(fā)生時,有強烈通過它們的欲望來提高你的婚姻指標。
14. Be Encouraging. When your spouse is going through a hard period of time, starting a new endeavor, or working on an important project, be there to encourage and support him or her. You should be your spouse’s number one fan.
鼓舞對方。當(dāng)你的配偶正在經(jīng)歷一段艱難的時間,開始一個新的努力,或工作在一個重要的項目,鼓勵和支持他或她。你應(yīng)該你的配偶的頭號粉絲。
15. Always show respect to each other. This includes the way you communicate to each other, they way you talk about your spouse to others and the way you treat your spouse.
總是互相尊重。這包括你的溝通方式,他們對待你談?wù)撃愕呐渑嫉姆绞?你對待你的配偶的方式。
16. Make family decisions together. We are a team and we make all family related decisions as a team.
一起為家庭做決定。我們是一個團隊,作為一個團隊我們讓大家一起做決策。
17. Leave your work at work. When you come home from work, resist the temptation to talk about work, unless your spouse wants to hear about it. Instead, focus your time together on subjects of interest to everyone.
離開你的工作。當(dāng)你下班回家,抵制誘惑,不去談?wù)摴ぷ?除非你的配偶想聽到它。相反,對于所有人，關(guān)注你想關(guān)注的興趣領(lǐng)域。
18. Be the best parent you can be. We make all parenting decisions together. We are intentional about our parenting. Your spouse’s love and respect for you will grow when he or she sees you loving and parenting to the best of your ability.
做你能做的最好的父母，我們作一起撫養(yǎng)的決定。我們一起用心撫養(yǎng)。伴侶的愛和尊重你的心將增強當(dāng)當(dāng)他或她看到你盡最大能力去愛和撫養(yǎng)。
