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Ironically, it turns out, that it's our differences, and our negotiation of difference,that unite us.
諷刺的是，事實證明，正是我們的不同和我們協商彼此的不同將我們連結起來。
I decided to have children while I was working on this project.
當我做這個項目的時候我決定要孩子。
And many people were astonished and said,
很多人對此感到驚奇，
But how can you decide to have children in the midst of studying everything that can go wrong?
你怎么能做出要孩子的決定，當你的研究是關于不如意的，且只進行到一半?
And I said, I'm not studying everything that can go wrong.
我說，我研究的不是那些不如意。
What I'm studying is how much love there can be,even when everything appears to be going wrong.
我研究的是，有多少愛可以給予，甚至當一切似乎都是個錯誤的情況下。
I thought a lot about the mother of one disabled child I had seen,
我想起我見過的一個殘疾孩子的母親，
a severely disabled child who died through caregiver neglect.
這個有嚴重殘疾的孩子，因為照料不周而去世。
And when his ashes were interred, his mother said,
當他的骨灰被安葬的時候，他的母親說，
I pray here for forgiveness for having been twice robbed,
我在這里祈禱寬恕，我失去了兩個，
once of the child I wanted and once of the son I loved.
一個是我想要的孩子，一個是我所愛著的兒子。
And I figured it was possible then for anyone to love any child if they had the effective will to do so.
我以為任何一個人都可以去愛任何孩子，如果他們有能力就會這樣做。
So my husband is the biological father of two children with some lesbian friends in Minneapolis.
我的丈夫是兩個孩子的親生父親，這兩個孩子的母親是，他在明尼阿波利斯市的女同性戀朋友。
I had a close friend from college who'd gone through a divorce and wanted to have children.
我大學時期有一個親密的朋友，她離了婚卻也想要孩子。
And so she and I have a daughter,
所以我和她生了一個女兒，
and mother and daughter live in Texas.
母親和女兒居住在德克薩斯州。
And my husband and I have a son who lives with us all the time of whom I am the biological father,
我丈夫和我有個兒子和我們一起生活，我是他的生父，
and our surrogate for the pregnancy was Laura,
為我們代孕的女士是勞拉，
the lesbian mother of Oliver and Lucy in Minneapolis.
她是明尼阿波利斯市奧利弗和露西的女同性戀母親。
