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If I hadn't gone to Ohio State and crossed paths with Tom,this child wouldn't have existed and this terrible thing wouldn't have happened.
如果我沒有到俄亥俄州立大學，沒遇見湯姆，這個孩子就不會存在，這可怕的慘案就不會發生。
But I've come to feel that I love the children I had so much that I don't want to imagine a life without them.
但我覺得我太愛孩子們了，我不愿想象沒有他們的生活。
I recognize the pain they caused to others, for which there can be no forgiveness,
我承認他們對其他人造成的痛苦是不可饒恕的，
but the pain they caused to me, there is, she said.
但我能寬恕他們對我造成的痛苦。她說。
So while I recognize that it would have been better for the world if Dylan had never been born,I've decided that it would not have been better for me.
所以雖然我承認，如果迪倫未曾出現在這個世界上，世界會更美好，但我認為那樣對我并非更有好處。
I thought it was surprising how all of these families had all of these children with all of these problems,problems that they mostly would have done anything to avoid,
令人驚訝的是，這些家庭有這么多子女教育的問題，這些問題又是他們常常不惜代價去避免的，
and that they had all found so much meaning in that experience of parenting.
但她們都發現養兒育女的經驗，很有意義。
And then I thought, all of us who have children love the children we have, with their flaws.
然后我想，我們這些有孩子的人，不管孩子如何，我們都疼愛無比。
If some glorious angel suddenly descended through my living room ceiling and offered to take away the children I have and give me other, better children-more polite, funnier, nicer, smarter-I would cling to the children I have and pray away that atrocious spectacle.
如果帶著光環的天使突然從客廳天花板降落，提議要帶走我的孩子還給我一個更好的孩子，更有禮貌，風趣，友善，聰明，我會緊抓住我自己的孩子，祈禱殘忍地事情不要發生。
And ultimately I feel that in the same way that we test flame-retardant pajamas in an inferno to ensure they won't catch fire when our child reaches across the stove,
我最終明白，就如同我們在火焰中測試防火睡衣以確保孩子手伸到爐子上時不會著火，
so these stories of families negotiating these extreme differences reflect on the universal experience of parenting,
這些處理特殊情況的家庭的故事反映了普世的育兒經驗，
which is always that sometimes you look at your child and you think,where did you come from?
有時候你看著孩子，心里想，你從哪里來？
It turns out that while each of these individual differences is siloed-there are only so many families dealing with schizophrenia,
盡管他們各自面對不同的境況，只有一些家庭有精神分裂癥患者，
there are only so many families of children who are transgender,
只有一些家庭的孩子做了變性手術，
there are only so many families of prodigies,
只有一些家庭出現神童，
who also face similar challenges in many ways,
在許多方面也面臨著相似的挑戰，
there are only so many families in each of those categories,
每個類別也僅有一些家庭，
but if you start to think that the experience of negotiating difference within your family is what people are addressing,
但如果你開始思考那些處理家人間分歧的經驗是出現在每個人生活中的，
then you discover that it's a nearly universal phenomenon.
然后你發現這是一個普遍的現象。
