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How to Quickly Deal With Discouragement
如何快速處理挫敗感
If we’re being honest, we all get discouraged. It’s just one of those potholes on our journey we all hit from time to time. You can have everything you have ever wanted, but you are still going to get discouraged at times.
如果我們誠實,我們都會遭遇挫折。在我們的人生旅程中，我們都會時而不時遭遇到，這只是其中的一個凹坑,。你能獲得你曾經想要的一切,但你偶爾還是會氣餒。
When we get discouraged our attitude and emotions turn negative. When this happens our productivity takes a nosedive, we tend to retreat and withdraw from others, and the risk of giving up on whatever we’re working toward runs very high.
當我們氣餒時，我們的態度和情緒變得消極。當這一切發生的時候，我們的生產力低落,我們傾向于退縮和放棄,無論我們從事何種工作，放棄的風險都非常高。
Since it can have such a negative impact on every area of our lives, including our health, learning to deal with disappointments in life and the temporary discouragement that may result is an important part of managing our lives.
因為它在我們生活的每個領域，包括我們的健康,有這樣的負面影響,學習處理生活中的失望和暫時的挫折,可能導致它成為管理我們生活的一個重要組成部分。
James Whitcomb Riley said, “The most essential factor is persistence—the determination never to allow your energy or enthusiasm to be dampened by the discouragement that must inevitably come.”
詹姆斯?惠特科姆萊利說,“最重要的因素是毅力和堅持---決心再也不讓你的能量和熱情被你無法避免的挫敗感所抑制。”
Fortunately for me, most of the time when I find myself feeling down, it’s because I am tired, had a rough day or someone said something that bothered me. If I just get a good night’s rest, I usually wake up with renewed energy.
我很幸運，大多數時候,我發現自己情緒低落的時候,那是因為我累了,今天過得不順或有人說了讓我煩惱的話。如果我好好休息一夜,通常第二天起床時，我又會獲得新的活力。
Sometimes, however, I need more than just a night of rest. I need to explore the root cause of my discouragement so that I can better understand it and respond accordingly.
然而,有時候,我需要的不僅僅是一個晚上的休息。我需要探索氣餒的根源,這樣我就可以更好地理解它,并據此做出反應。
Below is the five-step process I go through when I’m discouraged and need to figure out why. (As you can tell by reading my posts, I am a thinker and a processer.)
下面是當我沮喪,需要找出原因經歷的五步過程。(閱讀我的文章,你可以告訴我是一個思想家和信息處理器。)
1. Ask: Why am I discouraged? If it is not obvious, take a few minutes to sit down and make a list of potential reasons why you’re feeling defeated. Making this list is critical because you can’t take control of something you don’t understand.
1問:為什么我感到挫敗?如果它不明顯,花幾分鐘坐下來,列出你覺得被打敗潛在的原因。這個列表至關重要,因為你不能控制你不理解的東西。
2. As you look at each reason, ask: Why does this make me feel discouraged? Once you know the source of your discouragement, you should explore deeper.
2當你審視每個原因,問問自己:為什么這個讓我感到氣餒 一旦你知道挫折的來源,你應該更深地探索。
Is it because of unmet expectations that I feel this way? If so, make sure your expectations are realistic and that you are not setting yourself up for failure.Is it because I have let myself down? If so, what specifically have you done?
是因為未滿足的期望嗎?如果是這樣的話,確保你的期望是現實的,你沒有設置自己的失敗。是因為我讓自己失望了嗎?如果是這樣,你做了什么特別的事嗎?
