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3. Look at the bigger picture. Do your best to gain perspective not just on the issue that is the source of discouragement, but on your relationship to it as well. For example:
3。看看全局。盡你所能獲得一個視角，不僅僅基于挫折來源問題,而且基于你們的關系。例如:
Am I feeling this way because I am burned out? Do I need a break?What part of this situation is my fault? What can I do differently? What can I learn?Am I making progress, but just slower than I had hoped? What lessons have I learned? Am I a better person because of this experience?Who can I talk to for some trusted insight and perspective on this matter? This is always a big help to me because much of my discouragement stems from unfulfilled expectations. Often a fresh perspective is all I need.
我這樣感覺是因為我精疲力盡嗎?我需要休息嗎?這種情況下的哪一部分是我的錯?我能做些什么不一樣的事嗎?我能學到什么呢?是否是因為我取得了很大的進步,但只是比我曾希望慢?我學到了什么教訓?我因為這樣的經歷成了一個更好的人嗎? 我可以和哪些人探討對這件事的看法以獲取一些可信的見解和觀點?這對我始終是一個很大的幫助,因為我的挫折源于期待值。通常我需要一個全新的視角。
4. Ask: What’s my plan? As I reflect on all the times I have been discouraged, they have been times when I needed to grow. It may be that I needed to learn to set better expectations, that I needed to learn to be more careful in whom I place my trust, or that I needed to have a different perspective. In each case, I was forced to grow as a person.
4。問:我的計劃是什么?當每一次我反思挫敗感,我感覺我需要成長。也許我需要學會更好的預期,在我的信任的地方，我需要學會更加小心,或者我需要有一個不同的視角。在每種情況下,我被迫成長。
Next to each item on your list write down your plan to address the issue that is bothering you and quickly move on. Don’t accept a long-term sentence of discouragement. It is a choice. Keep moving forward. Nothing puts an end to discouragement like productive mental and physical activity.
在清單每一項的旁邊，寫下你的計劃來解決困擾你的問題并迅速前進。不接受長期氣餒。這是一個選擇。不斷前進。只有像富有成效的心理和生理活動才能終結挫敗感。
5. Count your blessings. Make a list of all the things for which you are grateful. Often times, we focus on the one thing that’s wrong and overlook the 99 things that are going well. When you make a conscious effort to write down what’s good and going well in your life, it helps you to put things into perspective.
5。算算你的福氣。列出所有你感恩的事情。很多時候,我們看待一件事，關注到的是一件不好的事情,而忽略了99件進展順利的事情。當你有意識地將寫下，你生活中的好事和順利的事,它可以幫助你把目光放長遠一點。
What will you do the next time you find yourself getting discouraged?
下次你發現自己有挫敗感時，你會怎么做?
Vincent van Gogh, famous Dutch painter, said, “In spite of everything I shall rise again: I will take up my pencil, which I have forsaken in my great discouragement, and I will go on with my drawing.”
荷蘭著名畫家梵高,他說,“就算我經歷一切不如意，我都會再次覺醒:我將重新拿起在巨大的挫敗中被我丟棄的畫筆,我將繼續我的繪畫創作。”
The secret to overcoming discouragement is to look at it as a temporary obstacle and learn how to process it. Once you start executing your plan, the discouragement you feel will leave as quickly as it appeared. Hold on to your vision and remember that ALL great successes came after periods of discouragement and failure. Don’t give up. The dark cloud of discouragement will disappear. You will smile again and experience a productive, fruitful life.
克服挫折的秘訣是把它視作一個臨時的障礙，并學習如何處理它。一旦你開始執行你的計劃,你感覺挫折感將消失得很快，就像它很快出現一樣。堅持你的愿景,記住所有偉大成就來自于一系列的挫折和失敗。不要放棄。挫敗感的烏云將會消失。你會再次微笑，度過一個富有成效碩果累累的人生。
By immediately dealing with discouragement when it strikes, not only will your life be better, but so will your family, friends and co-workers who are impacted by your attitude.
當挫敗感來臨時立即解決，不僅僅你的生活將會改善，而且深受你態度影響的家人,朋友和同事的生活也會更好。
What do you do when you are feeling discouraged? If you have a tip or suggestion, please share it in the comments section below.
當你遭受挫折感時你會做什么?如果你有一個小貼士或建議,請在下面的評論欄中分享。
