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8. Try to figure out what’s missing
弄明白錯失了什么
The state of being alone simply means no one else is with you. Loneliness, especially when it’s a persistent state, is a warning sign that something essential is absent from your life. The first step to curing the problem is to figure out what’s missing. Do you isolate yourself, by accident or design? Do you work in a career that doesn’t allow for much one-on-one human interaction? Do you have any friends, family, or loved ones you can talk to?
孤單只表明你身邊沒伴兒。孤獨，尤其是狀態(tài)持續(xù)很久的話，就說明你的生活缺少某些基本的東西了。解決問題的第一步就是想清楚到底錯失了什么。你是故意讓自己離群索居的嗎？你的工作環(huán)境不容許面對面交流嗎？你有沒有可以傾訴的親朋好友或至愛？
If the answer to any of these is negative, it’s time to take positive steps to correct that. Join a dating site. Get the contact information for your cousin you haven’t talked to since adolescence. Ask that server at the local diner if she’s free for dinner one night. Even if the answer is no, you’re taking positive steps to alleviate your loneliness.
如果以上問題的答案都比較消極，那你得采取積極行動進行改正了。注冊一個約會網(wǎng)站吧。想辦法聯(lián)系自從長大后就沒講過話的表親吧。問問附近餐廳的服務(wù)員今晚有沒有空一起吃個飯吧。就算被拒絕，至少你也在積極克服孤獨了。
