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When it comes to friends, there's bound to be a few bad apples in the bunch. For whatever reason -- maybe they're overly critical, perpetually depressed or just plain annoying -- you can't stand to be around them. Yet rather than keeping them in your life, consider giving them the heave-ho or you could suffer.
提到朋友，在那么一大堆人里必定有幾個(gè)害群之馬。不管是出于什么原因，可能他們過于吹毛求疵、始終沮喪或純粹只是討厭，你無法忍受呆在他們身邊。然而，你可以考慮與他們絕交或者你可以承受，也勝過繼續(xù)與之交往。
"Keeping toxic people around could take away time and energy from positive friends, damage your self-esteem or put you in harm's way," says Jan Yager, Ph.D., sociologist and author of When Friendship Hurts. Here, she deconstructs a dozen so-called friends you may want to break up with.
“讓損友留在身邊，會(huì)耗損益友的時(shí)間和精力，傷害你的自尊或者害了你自己”，社會(huì)學(xué)家《當(dāng)朋友讓你傷害》的作者詹.耶格博士說。這里，她解析了十二種你可能想要與之絕交的所謂的朋友。
The Faultfinder
吹毛求疵的人
You know these people: They're always critical of everything you do and say, which can be contagious. If this friend has redeeming traits, ignore the overly critical comments or make a joke by saying something like, "Let's see if you can last an hour without saying anything negative." However, if you're unable to distance yourself or your self-esteem is hurting too much, step away from the relationship.
你認(rèn)識(shí)這種人：他們對(duì)你所做和所說的每件事情都一直挑刺，這種行為有時(shí)候會(huì)感染他人（情緒）。如果這個(gè)朋友也有一些可以彌補(bǔ)缺點(diǎn)的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，那你就不要把他過度挑剔的意見放在心上，或者開個(gè)這樣玩笑，如：“讓我們看看如果你不發(fā)表任何批判意見，是不是能堅(jiān)持一個(gè)小時(shí)”。可是，如果你拋不開這些，或者自尊受到太大傷害，那么就應(yīng)遠(yuǎn)離這種關(guān)系。
The Therapist
心理診療師
Too much advice is never good, especially from a supposed friend. If you're keeping this person around because of the other wonderful traits she possesses, tell your friend you don't want advice unless you ask. Or thank the person without discussing her comments. Another solution? Start analyzing her and she may realize how annoying that can be.
忠告太多就不是什么好事，尤其是當(dāng)這些忠告出于一個(gè)你所認(rèn)為的朋友。如果你繼續(xù)和她交往是因?yàn)樗€具有其他很好的特質(zhì)，那么，告訴你的朋友，除非是你主動(dòng)要求否則你不需要?jiǎng)e人的建議。或者絕口不提她給的建議，而只是謝謝她。另外的解決辦法？開始分析她的性格，這樣有可能她會(huì)意識(shí)到老給別人建議會(huì)有多煩人。
