WHAT HE SAYS: “I need some space。”
WHAT YOU HEAR: “I don’t want to be with you。”
WHAT HE MEANS: “I care about you, but I also want some more independence。” In many romantic relationships, men use this blanket phrase instead of being more specific, as in: “I love the connection we have, but I miss spending time with my friends as well。” Use your judgment: If he’s still being affectionate and just feels a bit smothered3, give him some breathing room. However, if you’re only hanging out once a week to begin with, it might just be that he wants to end things – in which case, walk away。
他說:“我需要一些空間。”
你的理解:“我不想和你在一起了。”
他的意思是:“我關心你,但我也想要更多的獨立空間。”在很多戀愛關系中,男人們都會說這種模棱兩可的話,而不是說得更詳盡,比如, “我喜歡我們之間的關系,但我也想念跟朋友們相處的時間。”運用你的判斷力:如果他仍愛你,只是覺得有點透不過氣,那就給他一些喘息的空間吧。但是,如果前提是你每周只和他出去玩一次,那么這可能是他想結束關系的訊號——如果是這種情況,還是離開他為好。