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1. Ask For Praise
Expecting your partner to notice things without prompting is often very unfair and can lead to resentment. Keep the beast away by speaking up and bringing attention to things you’d like your partner to notice. If you’ve done something you’d like your partner to take notice of, say something! Got your hair did? Say something! Fixed the dining room table so it doesn’t teeter? Say something!
You did this instinctively when you were a child. Remember running up to a parent or guardian and asking them to look at a picture you’d colored or cape you’d made out of an expensive tablecloth? For most of us, the response was one of amazement (if a bit contrived) and vocal appreciation for our obvious talents.
You’re not so very different now. You still love to be praised when you’ve done well. Even if it’s something you should have done earlier in the week or missed a detail on. How to get that praise? Ask for it and agree to give it when your partner asks you for some appreciation. You know not to crush a child’s spirit by ignoring their efforts to impress you. Are you as smart about your partner?
1.請求表揚
在無提示下期望你的情人注意到某些事，通常非常不公平也容易導致不滿。遠離這種討厭的事，坦率地講明白你希望你的情人注意到某些事。如果你已經做完了你希望對方注意的事，說出來！你做了頭發？說出來！修理了餐廳的桌子使它不再搖晃？說出來！
當還是個小孩的時候你會本能地這么去做。還記得你跑到父母或監護人面前要他們看看你涂上了顏色的一副畫或者用一張昂貴地桌布做成了披肩嗎?對我們大多數人來說，對我們顯地才華，這種反應是驚奇（如果有一點小發明）和大聲贊揚中的一種。
如今你也沒有多大的不同。當你干好某事后你仍然想被表揚。就算是那些你本來這周應該早就完成的或是錯過了細節的事。怎么去獲得贊揚？去請求表揚并同意當你的情人需要時你也給出贊揚。你知道不能因忽略孩子們為了給你留下印象而做出的努力打擊他的心靈。你是否像你父母那樣聰明？
