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1. Face your fears. But do it in small steps.
This is one of the best ways to overcome fears and get out of your comfort zone. What holds us back in our zone of comfort is often a fear or that facing that fear straight on might be overwhelming. This is a solution to those two problems. It allows you to stretch your comfort zone slowly making it less uncomfortable and frightening.
If you’re for instance nervous socially you might not feel able to ask people out on dates right away. The fear of being rejected and that others might think less of you if you get turned down can make many of us feel unable to ask the question.
So you take small steps instead. Steps like first just saying hi to people. Or starting to talk more to people online via forums and Instant Messaging. And then trying to be more involved in conversations at work or in school to exercise your conversation-muscles.
I guess one could say that you gradually de-sensitize yourself to social situations or whatever you are afraid of. Or, seeing it in a more motivating light, that you are building courage and expanding your comfort zone in this part of your life (which is something that often seeps over to other areas of life too.)
So, identify your fear. Then make a plan with some smaller steps you can take to gradually lessen your discomfort.
1. 學會逐步面對自己的恐懼
這是克服恐懼且懼擺安逸環(huán)境最好的辦法。我們一直呆在溫室的原因通常就是恐懼，且在直面恐懼的時候會感到害怕。針對上述問題有一個解決的方案，會讓你漸漸脫離安逸，且你會覺得安逸不再那么舒服，甚至開始對其感到厭惡。
假如你有社交恐懼，你不敢當即要別人約定好會談的日期見面，害怕被拒絕，怕被別人看不起，一旦被拒絕也許就再不敢詢問問題了。因此你要慢慢克服，開始時可以先和別人打招呼或在網(wǎng)上論壇多和別人聊聊天，發(fā)發(fā)信息，然后漸漸地開始在工作上和別人多聊天，在學校的時候和別人多進行交談。
我猜此時肯定會有人對說，你不像以前那樣對公共社交場所那么敏感，或你對以前一些你感到恐懼的東西不再那么害怕了，看到你所取得的這些成就就會使你更有前進的動力，此時的你開始有勇氣，不再害怕以前你所害怕的事情，你建立和擴大了你的勇氣（生活中其他的事情也諸如此）
面對你的恐懼，你必須知道你畏懼的是什么，然后開始指定一些小計劃來慢慢減緩不適。
