5. Tell them no:

Why are we so afraid to tell our children no? Did you know that most of the time when our children act out in dress, attitude, behavior, drugs, sex, they are actually calling out for love. That's all they want! Whose responsibility is it to give them the love they deserve? Children learn at a very young age that by using manipulative behaviors it will get us to pay more attention to them. And it works! But screaming and nagging doesn't. Ignoring them doesn’t work either. Our children wish we would tell them no. All they want is our attention.
5.對他們說不準：

我們?yōu)槭裁慈绱撕ε聦ξ覀兊暮⒆诱f不準？你是否知道大多數(shù)時候，我們的孩子穿著開始變化，態(tài)度變得蠻橫，行為古怪異常，甚至開始吸毒，發(fā)生性行為的時候，他們實際上是在呼喚愛。那就是他們想要的一切！誰的職責是給予他們應(yīng)得的愛？孩子在很小的時候，就學(xué)會了用左右別人的行為來引起我們的注意。那確實有效！而又哭又鬧卻是不起作用的。不理他們也是不起作用的。我們的孩子希望我們對他們說不準。他們想要的僅僅是我們對他們的關(guān)注。

[管教你的兒子，他就使你得安息，也必使你心里喜樂。---- 箴言 第二十九章第十七節(jié) （《圣經(jīng).舊約》中的一卷）]

[Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will be a delight to your soul. Proverbs 29:17]

來源:可可英語 http://www.ccdyzl.cn/read/201003/98164.shtml