How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart: 如何停止傷自己的心？

Best selling book by Meggan Roxanne: 由Meggan Roxanne撰寫的暢銷書

5 things you need to pay attention to in order to heal your heart, find strength and live your best life: 五件值得你關注的事，治愈內心、找到力量、活出你最精彩的人生

Healing: 療愈、治愈

Therapy: 心理治療

Therapist: 心理治療師

1. 原生家庭

Childhood experiences shape our emotional foundations: 童年的經歷會塑造我們的情緒基礎

Family of origin: 原生家庭

The formative events during childhood, whether positive or challenging, create the foundation for our emotional responses and thought patterns: 童年時期的成長事件，無論是積極的還是艱難的，都奠定了我們的情緒反應和思維模式的基礎

Formative: 塑造性的、形成性的

Your past experiences don't have to dictate your future: 你過去的經歷不需要主宰你的未來

Dictate: 主宰、支配

By examining your past, recognizing your patterns, and committing to personal development, you're taking the initial steps towards embracing your true self and fostering healthier, more fulfilling relationships: 通過審視自己的過去，總結出規律，自己拓展自己，你就邁出了擁抱真實自我、培養更健康、更美滿人際關系的第一步

Recognize patterns: 總結規律

Examine: 審視、檢視

Fulfilling: 充實的、圓滿的、有意義的

2. 把舒適區變成不舒適區

Confronting fears to embrace your authentic self: 直面恐懼、擁抱真實的自己

Confront: 直擊、對抗

Authentic: 真實的、原汁原味的

Many of us get stuck in familiar routines, scared to explore the unknown and chase our dreams: 我們很多人都陷在熟悉的慣性之中，不敢探索未知、追逐夢想

Get stuck: 停滯不前、卡住

Ask yourself honestly: what’s truly holding me back? 問問自己：真正阻礙我的是什么？

Hold back: 阻礙、限制、使人望而卻步

Reframing your comfort zone as a discomfort zone: 將你的舒適區重新定義為你的不舒適區

Reframe: 重新定義

Recognize that what feels safe isn't always nurturing: 意識到讓你感到安全的不一定能讓你成長

Nurturing: 有養分的、滋養的、使人成長的

3. 照顧好自己，才能照顧好別人

Balancing self-care and self-love with caring for others: 在照顧自己、愛護自己與照顧和愛護他人之間找到平衡

Appreciating time spent alone: 珍惜自己獨處的時間

Unlike loneliness, solitude is a choice that allows for deeper self-discovery and self-awareness: 獨處不是孤獨，而能幫助你進行更深層次的自我發現和自我認識

Solitude: 獨處

Self-awareness: 自我認識

Begin with just 10 minutes daily in a quiet place, when you know nobody will interrupt you. It’s the beginning of reconnecting with yourself: 從每天 10 分鐘開始，找一個安靜的、沒有人會打擾你的地方。這是重新與自己建立聯系的開始

Meditation: 靜坐、冥想

4. 帶著意圖、方向感生活

Living with intention means you listen to your inner voice and start making choices that reflect your true values: 帶著意圖生活意味著你要用心聆聽自己內心的聲音，開始做出反映你真正價值觀的選擇

Intention: 意圖

Mindful living creates transformative life experiences: 正念能使你的生活帶來蛻變

Mindful: 正念的、清醒的、不是被動糊涂的，關注此時此刻你的所見、所聞、所想、所感

Transformative: 產生蛻變的

5. 別人不一定珍惜你的時間，但你需要珍惜它

Reclaiming your time: 奪回你的時間

Reclaim: 重新奪回本就屬于你的

Guarding our time and energy more effectively: 更有效地保護我們的時間和精力

Refusing commitments that don't align with our fundamental values or objectives: 拒絕不符合我們基本價值觀或目標的承諾

Commitments: 承諾、答應要做的事情

Align: 對齊、一致

As we begin to protect our time, we rebalance our relationships and gain more control over the direction of our lives: 當我們開始保護自己的時間時，我們就會重新平衡人際關系，更能掌握自己生活的方向

Practice saying "no" with kindness and determination：練習善意而堅定地說 "不”

Determination: 決心、堅定

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