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How do I put my aspirations into effect? "What is the best way to start?" "Where do I go?" "Who can help me?" "How did you do it?"
比如“怎樣才能把理想付諸實踐？”“什么是開始做一件事的最好方法”“我要朝哪個方向發展？”“誰能給予我幫助？”“別人是如何成功的？”
In this period, which is longer and more stable compared with the passage that leads to it, the tasks are as enormous as they are exhilarating: To shape a Dream, that vision of ourselves which will generate energy, aliveness, and hope. To prepare for a lifework. To find a mentor if possible. And to form the capacity for intimacy, without losing in the process whatever consistency of self we have thus far mustered. The first test structure must be erected around the life we choose to try.
與前一階段相比，這個階段要更長、更穩定。在這個時期，人們的任務既繁重又令人振奮：要將夢想具體化，因為想象實現夢想的自己可以令我們精力充沛、朝氣蓬勃、充滿希望；要為畢生的事業做好準備；如果可能的話還要找個導師；要培養與人建立親密關系而又不會受他人左右而迷失至今建立的自我的能力。人生的第一個試驗性規劃一定要圍繞我們選擇嘗試的生活去建立。
Doing what we "should" is the most pervasive theme of the twenties. The "shoulds" are largely defined by family models, the press of the culture, or the prejudices of our peers.
“做該做的事”是二十幾歲的人群中最為流行的主題。至于“該做的事”是什么，在很大程度上由家庭中的榜樣、文化上的壓力或者同齡人的偏見來界定。
If the prevailing cultural instructions are that one should get married and settle down behind one's own door, a nuclear family is born. If instead the peers insist that one should do one's own thing, the 25-year-old is likely to harness himself onto a Harley-Davidson and burn up Route 66 in the commitment to have no commitments.
如果流行的文化取向是成家立戶，一個小家庭就會產生。如果同齡人堅持認為一個人應該干自己想干的事，25歲左右的年輕人就會整天無牽無掛地駕著自己的哈雷戴維森摩托在66號高速公路上奔馳。
One of the terrifying aspects of the twenties is the inner conviction that the choices we make are irrevocable. It is largely a false fear. Change is quite possible, and some alteration of our original choices is probably inevitable.
二十幾歲的人往往認為自己此時做出的選擇會無法改變，這令他們極為恐懼。其實這種恐懼毫無必要。改變是極有可能的，對于原先做出的某些選擇做出修正甚至往往是不可避免的。
