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And when we have this schema in our mind, we are putting ourselves, fighting nature,
當我們心中存在著這樣的基模的時候 我們就在讓自己反抗自然規律
and just like we would lead an unhappy and frustrating life, if we did not accept the law of gravity,
就如我們如果不接受萬有引力定律的話 我們的生活就會充滿不快與沮喪
we live and so many people live-so many people at Harvard,
我們活著 那么多人也活著 哈佛有不少人
not just at Harvard, everywhere are frustrated constantly,
不只是哈佛 所有地方都有 時常沮喪
because in their minds, they have this schema.
因為在他們心里 他們一直有這樣的基模
And again, this does not mean that we enjoy failure.
再說一遍 這并不是說我們該享受失敗
But when we have this schema, in addition to not enjoying failure,
但當我們有這樣的基模的時候 同時又不享受失敗
we have the frustration of not accepting reality.
我們就會因為難以接受事實而沮喪
Now there are consequences to having this schema.
擁有這樣的基模也會有后果的
I want to discuss some of these consequences and some of the characteristics of a person who holds this schema.
我就想討論一下這樣的后果 懷有擁有這樣的基模的人的一些特征
Now there is no perfect perfectionist. As I said, we all exist somewhere along the continuum.
根本就沒有完美的完美主義者 就如我說的 我們都存在于一個閉區間內
And there are many people, again, many people here were closer to this end of the continuum.
確實有一些人 確實有很多人更接近這個區間的這端
The characteristics that I'd like to share with you are all ones that are documented in literature.
我想和你們分享的這些特征 都是那些已經被記載于文學作品之內的
There are many people who have them.
有很多人都擁有這樣的特征
You will identify with some of the characteristics, not with others. That's fine.
你們大家或多或少都具有一些這樣的特征 而不是別的特征 這也沒關系的
All the characteristics in addtion to being well documented in
所有的這些特征 除了都已被心理學著作
the psychological literature are also ones that I experienced, or still experience.
詳述以外 我也都有過體會 或者現在仍有所體會
So these ones are personally meaningful to me, in addtion to being also quite common.
所以這些特征對我來說具有一定的意義 它們本身也非常常見
The first one: defensiveness.
第一個是 自衛性
