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Keeping that fa~ade, that image of impregnability of perfection.
就是為了維持那種完美的幻覺(jué)
Versus failure as feedback. Again, not enjoying failure.
而不是將失敗視為反饋 不是說(shuō)要享受失敗
I haven't met a person who does enjoy failing, but seeing it more as feedback, as a growth opportunity.
我還沒(méi)遇到過(guò)享受失敗的人 而是要將失敗視為一種反饋和成長(zhǎng)的機(jī)會(huì)
A perfectionist is all about getting here. That's what it's about.
完美主義者只想著怎么到達(dá)這里 他們只關(guān)注這個(gè)
This is a means toward an end. Tangential.
只針對(duì)目的 直來(lái)直去的
Something that is not important other than taking me from here to here.
別的事情根本不重要 如果它不能讓我達(dá)到目的的話
Or as for person committed to excellence, the journey is much part of the success as the destination.
但對(duì)于追求卓越的人來(lái)說(shuō) 旅途和終點(diǎn)都是成功的一部分
Now there are numerous, numerous consequences to this distinction to holding one schema versus the other.
這樣的基模上的差異會(huì)導(dǎo)致很多的后果
Here are some of them.
我在這里列舉一些
The first one is that a perfectionist experiences only, at best, temporary relief.
第一個(gè) 就是完美主義者只能感受到 最多也只是 暫時(shí)性的輕松
So yes, there are constant pressure but when he or she gets to point B, then they feel relieved.
是的 他們會(huì)感受到持續(xù)的壓力 但當(dāng)他們 達(dá)到目的之后 他們感到了輕松
This is essentially the consummate rat racer.
這就是典型的逐利者
Let me give you an example of such a rat racer.
我來(lái)給你們一個(gè)這樣的逐利者的例子
The person-let's call him X-goes to school, goes to an elementary school.
一個(gè)人 我們姑且稱他為X先生 去上學(xué)了 上小學(xué)
Until that point, he really enjoyed his day care, pre-K, kindergarten.
在那之前 他一直很享受學(xué)前的生活
And then he goes to school and the pressure begins.
而他上學(xué)以后就開(kāi)始有壓力了
