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In arguments, in discussions, perfectionists are defensive.
在爭論和討論中 完美主義者都有自衛性
Why? Because a criticism is by definition a deviation from a straight line.
為什么 因為批評在定義上就是一種對于完美的直線方式的偏離
It's imperfection. It's a daint. It's something that maybe I'm not doing perfectly well.
這就是不完美 是一種挑刺 就是我沒做得完美的事情
And we don't like deviations from a schema we have.
我們都不喜歡偏離我們所持基模的東西
Remember, the mind doesn't like when there is an inconsistency between what is inside and what is outside.
記住了 我們的心是不喜歡內在與外在之間的脫節的
We want there to be a balance, congruence. We don't like desinence.
我們需要的是平衡 一致 我們不喜歡橫生枝節
And if what we have in mind is the perfecionist schema, the criticism is a deviation from it.
而如果我們心中抱有的是完美主義基模 而批評又是對其的偏離
And then we become defensive.
那我們就會變得有自衛性
Again, something that I experience numerously times; something that I'm working on constantly.
這是我多次有所感受的 并且也是我一直在努力解決的
In addition, or in constrast, a person committed to excellence is open,
附帶一提 或者說是正好相反 一個追求卓越的人是心胸開闊的
is welcoming of suggestions and criticisms at times.
他會歡迎時不時的建議與批評
It doesn't mean that he or she enjoys it, but he or she understands that it's necessary,
這不是說他或者她喜歡這樣 而是他或她明白這是必要的
that it's an important part of growth, of development.
這是成長與發展的重要部分
Perfectionist focuses on the half empty part of the glass.
完美主義者只注意到空著的那半個杯子
Why? Because a perfectionist is obssessed by failure, obssessed by deviations from that straight narrow.
為什么 因為完美主義者為失敗所困擾 被對直線完美方式的偏離所困擾
And whatever it is, what are obssessed with by definition is what we constantly focus on.
而不管是什么 困擾我們的 就是我們所關注的
So he or she constantly fosues on what is not working, on potential failures or actual failures.
他或她一直關注未能達成的東西 關注潛在的可能失敗或者是真正的失敗
