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Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high.
好吧，剛才那聽起來可能有一點輕浮，但是別搞錯，在這里籌碼非常高。
When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career,
當很多事情被推到三十幾歲再做時，在你的三十歲這個階段就有在極短的時間內開始一個職業，
pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.
挑選一個城市，找到一個伴侶并且生幾個孩子的巨大壓力。
Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show,
這些事情中有很多是不兼容的，而且就如研究開始表明，
simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.
在三十幾歲這個階段同時完成這么多事的壓力以及難度實在是太大了。
The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.
上個千年之后的中年危機不在于能否買一輛紅色的敞篷車。
It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.
是在于發現自己的職業不是自己想要的。
It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.
是在于發現你無法生你想要的孩子，或者無法給自己的孩子一個同胞。
Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves,
有太多太多的三十幾歲的人和四十幾歲的人先看看自己，
and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, "What was I doing? What was I thinking?"
然后看看坐在房間另一邊的我，然后討論他們的二十幾歲這個時間段?！拔耶敃r在做什么？我當時在想什么？”
I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.
我想改變二十幾歲的人的所做與所思。
Here's a story about how that can go. It's a story about a woman named Emma.
我來講一個關于如何這么做的故事。這是一個關于一位叫Emma的女性的故事。
At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis.
25歲時，Emma來到我的辦公室因為她，用她的話來講，正在經歷一個身份危機。
She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment,
她說她認為她想從事藝術或者娛樂，
but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.
但她還沒決定，所以前幾年她花在做服務員上了。
Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition.
因為比較便宜，她和她那展現脾氣比志向更頻繁的男朋友住在一起。
And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder.
而無論她的二十幾歲有多么困難，她以前的生活更困難。
She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying,
她在會面時經?？?，然后平定下來，會說，
"You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends."
“你無法選擇你的家庭，但是你能選擇你的朋友?！?/p>
