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Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.
你可能會認為30歲是一個比20歲，甚至是25歲更好的安定下來的時間，而且我也同意。
But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress.
但當你在別的人開始進入結婚禮堂時，抓緊和你同居或睡覺的人不叫進步。
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one,
在婚事上下功夫的最好時間就是結婚之前，
and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.
意思就是對待愛情就要像對待工作一樣富有意識。
Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want
選擇家庭就是有意識的選擇你想要的人和物，
rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.
而不是單單想讓事情成功，或者和選擇你的那個人浪費時間。
So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book,
那Emma后來怎么樣了？嗯，我們翻了翻那個地址薄，
and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.
然后她發現她的一個老室友的一位親人在另一個州的一個藝術博物館工作。
That weak tie helped her get a job there.
那個微弱的聯系幫她在那里找到一份工作。
That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.
那份工作給她一個離開她的同居男友的理由。
Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums.
現在，5年過去了，她是一些博物館的特殊活動規劃者。
She's married to a man she mindfully chose.
她和一位她有意識地選擇了的人結婚了。
She loves her new career, she loves her new family,
她愛她的新職業，她愛他的新家庭，
and she sent me a card that said, "Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough."
她還給我一張上面寫著“現在緊急聯系人一欄似乎不夠大了。”的卡片。
