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Yeah. Yeah. I see especially the men are not really getting it.
對，對。我可以看到男生都不太懂
But it's OK. Now how does that feel? Not comfortable right?
不過沒關(guān)系。感覺如何，不是很舒服對吧
Now this is such a simple movement.
但這只是非常簡單的一件事
You know, folding hands! And yet we feel very uncomfortable, something is wrong here.
交疊雙手！我們?nèi)匀荒芨杏X到很不舒服，有點不對勁
And we want to go back to our folding before.
我們想回到原來交叉雙手的方式
Much more comfortable. We first make our habits and then our habits make us. OK.
舒服多了。我們塑造習(xí)慣，習(xí)慣反過來塑造我們
So the key is, here we are talking about a very simple change, folding hands.
所以關(guān)鍵在于，我們這還只是做了很小的改變，交疊雙手
How much more difficult is it when we have had habits that we cultivated for many years and are much more significant in our lives?
那要改變那些我們養(yǎng)成了許多年對我們的生活更重要的習(xí)慣會有多么難呢
Very difficult to go... to change them. It takes time.
要改變它們非常困難，這需要時間
William James, as I mentioned before, says it takes 21 days to change a habit.
威廉·詹姆斯，我之前提到過，說改變習(xí)慣需要21天
Loehr and Schwartz in their book, The Power of Full Engagement, talk about 30 days to change it.
洛爾和施瓦茨在他們的《精力管理》一書中說需要三十天
And of course it depends on what habit.
當(dāng)然要看要改變的習(xí)慣是什么
So give ourselves 30 days to start the gratitude. Give ourselves 30 days to build the new ritual of exercising regularly.
給自己三十天開始學(xué)會感恩，給自己三十天來建立經(jīng)常鍛煉的例行公事
And the key is to give yourself no more than one or two rituals each 30 days.
關(guān)鍵在于每三十天內(nèi)不要建立超過兩件例行公事
Why? Because as we mentioned earlier, it takes a lot of self-discipline to create a ritual and we don't have much self-discipline,
為什么，因為正如我們之前說的建立例行公事需要大量自律而我們的自律是有限的
which is why when we have a list of 10 changes that we want to introduce in our lives today, we end up doing none.
這也就是為什么我們今天列出十項想要做出的改變，但最終什么也沒變
We end up doing none. Because we are over-extending our self-discipline and we break down.
最終什么也沒變。因為我們過度消耗了自律，最終崩潰了
