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Why? Because something cannot be changed, or almost impossible to change gradually. For example, addiction.
為什么，因為有些東西無法或者幾乎不可能逐漸地改變。例如，成癮
If I'm addicted to drugs, it's very difficult to say, well I'll just have a little bit less,
如果我是個癮君子，那就很難說出,我就少注射一點
you know I'll inject a little bit less today. A little bit less tomorrow.
今天少一點，明天再少一點
It usually has to be abrupt. And then we are in the boiling realm. Then we are in the panic zone.
通常都要很突然，然后我們就處于沸騰的區域,就處在恐慌區
Quite literally at times, which is why we need help.
時常都是這樣，所以我們才需要幫助
In this area, we need someone to hold us. Someone to comfort us. Someone to protect us.
在此時我們需要有人抓緊我們,安慰我們，保護我們
Because it is such a volatile zone. And potentially dangerous.
因為這是個如此反復無常的地帶，并且十分危險
But generally, if you want to change, the healthy approach to change would be along the stretch zone.
但一般來說，如果你想改變，健康的方式就是在拉伸區進行
It's impossible to change in theory. Now I have said it so many times and yet very often people who take the class,
僅從理論上來說，是不可能改變的，我已經說了很多遍，但還是經常有上了這個課的人
as you know, many of them do change. Many of them do say, well my life is better today for having taken it.
他們中的很多人確實改變了，他們中的很多人確實說上這個課使我的生活變得更美好了
And other people say, well I took the class and it didn't make a difference in my life It was a fun experience at times, the pink shirt and others.
還有些別的人則說，我上了這個課，但它對我的生活沒什么影響，這是個很有趣的經歷，粉紅T恤之類的
But it didn't make a real lasting difference in my life.
但對我的生活沒有造成實質而持久的影響
In every... almost all, not in all cases, but in almost all cases, it's because it wasn't
在每種……幾乎所有，并不是所有，但大多數情況下，這是因為這改變并不是
behavioral change associated with the attitudinal change or with the insides or understandings or recognition.
與態度改變或與內在的理解和認知相關聯的行為改變
There has to be a bias for action.
一定會存在著行動偏向
And that bias for action, just name a few examples: to increase confidence, we do it by taking risks,
關于行動偏向，舉幾個例子：為了增加自信，我們得冒險
not by talking and thinking about, or standing in front of the mirror and say to myself:
而不是說一下，或者想一下，或者站在鏡子前對自己說
I have a lot of confidence. I have self-esteem. I'm great. I'm terrific. I'm gorgeous. Not enough.
我非常自信，我有自尊，我很棒，很好，很偉大。這都不夠
