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And the difference here is about active acceptance.
這里的區別就在于積極接受
I can still accept up my emotions. I can still accept my pain and experience it
我仍然接受我的情緒。接受我的痛苦，并感受它
and still choose to act in accordance with how I deal more, most appropriate or most helpful.
同時選擇用最適當，最對自己有益的方式去面對
So I can accept the fact you know I was just dumped say by my girlfriend,
所以說，我能接受被女友拋棄這個現實，我能接受
I can accept the fact that I feel terrible about it and awful but then three days later go out to Oaks and party, go wild.
自己感覺糟透了的現實，但是三天之后照樣出門到Oaks參加派對，瘋玩一通
So faking it again because of the facial feedback hypothesis, because of the body feedback hypothesis, because of self-perception theory.
因此，正是因為臉部回饋假說，因為身體回饋假說，因為自我認知理論
The behavior will affect my attitude. And after a crazy night out in Oaks,
行為影響了我的態度。在Oakes狂歡一夜之后
I will actually feel better and healthy. Well, may be not, but better.
我實際上感覺好多了，也更健康了。好吧，健康不一定，但是感覺是好多了
Here's a quick video of Marva Collins, talking the, talking about some of her experiences.
下面我要播放一段瑪瓦·柯林斯的錄像，當中她談了一些自己的經歷
I think that maybe what I am is my parents and their consistency
我覺得也許我現在這樣是因為我的父母和他們的堅持
I mean I wanted to be as successful as my parents, my grandparents.
我想要和他們一樣成功，和我的祖父母一樣成功
In those days, it was quiet rare to be black and to be successful. So I think
在以前，成功的黑人是很少見的。所以我認為
the determination of my parents and grandparents, they are... we would get chest high.
是我父母和祖父母的決心，他們……我們會抬頭挺胸
As I said I was 14 years older than my one sister.
我和比我小14歲的妹妹
But if we walked in church and didn't hold our heads up.
去教堂的時候，如果我們沒有挺胸抬頭
My mom would say, 'what was wrong with you today walking with your head all down?'
我媽媽會說：你們今天這么了？老低著頭走路
