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Children absolutely need parental involvement, love, care, time, and attention.
孩子的成長(zhǎng)需要父母的參與、關(guān)愛(ài)、照料、陪伴以及注意力的傾注，
But parents who work outside the home are still capable of giving their children a loving and secure childhood.
但上班族父母也完全能夠給予孩子一個(gè)充滿愛(ài)與安全感的童年。
Some data even suggest that having two parents working outside the home can be advantageous to a child's development, particularly for girls.
有些數(shù)據(jù)甚至表明，父母都是上班族，對(duì)孩子尤其是女孩的成長(zhǎng)是有益的。
Although I know the data and understand intellectually that my career is not harming my children, there are times when I still feel anxious about my choices.
盡管我掌握著這些數(shù)據(jù)，也很清楚我的事業(yè)沒(méi)有危及孩子，但有時(shí)候我還是會(huì)對(duì)自己的選擇感到焦慮。
A friend of mine felt the same way, so she discussed it with her therapist and, later, shared this insight:
我的一個(gè)朋友也有同樣的感覺(jué)，所以她和心理醫(yī)生進(jìn)行了討論，并與我分享了以下心得：
"My therapist told me that when I was worrying about how much I was leaving my girls,
“心理醫(yī)生告訴我，當(dāng)我開(kāi)始因?yàn)椴辉诤⒆由磉叾械浇箲]時(shí)，
that separation anxiety is actually more about the mom than the kids.
這種分離焦慮感事實(shí)上更多地源自母親而非孩子。
We talk about it as though it is a problem for children, but actually it can be more of an issue for the mom."
我們談?wù)撨@件事貌似是孩子的問(wèn)題，但實(shí)際上這主要與母親有關(guān)。”
I always want to do more for my children.
我總是想抽出更多時(shí)間與孩子們相處。
Because of work obligations, I've missed doctor's appointments and parent-teacher conferences and have had to travel when my kids were sick.
由于工作原因，比如沒(méi)能如約帶他們?nèi)タ瘁t(yī)生，沒(méi)能參加他們的家長(zhǎng)會(huì)，甚至在他們生病的時(shí)候也會(huì)出差。
I have also missed a level of detail about their lives.
我曾錯(cuò)過(guò)了很多生活中的點(diǎn)點(diǎn)滴滴。
I once asked a mother at our school if she knew any of the other kids in the first-grade class, hoping for a familiar name or two.
我曾問(wèn)一位孩子同學(xué)的母親，是否認(rèn)識(shí)一年級(jí)的其他孩子，心想她應(yīng)該能說(shuō)出一兩個(gè)名字吧。
