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The first is: vulnerability is not weakness.
第一件事，脆弱不是弱點。
And that myth is profoundly dangerous.
并且這種錯誤理解非常危險。
Let me ask you honestly -- and I'll give you this warning, I'm trained as a therapist, so I can out-wait you uncomfortably
我想誠懇地請問大家 -- 先給個提醒，作為一個受過專業訓練的治療師，我知道你們會感覺不太自在
-- so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome
-- 所以你們只要舉手就很好了
-- how many of you honestly, when you're thinking about doing or saying something vulnerable think, "God, vulnerability is weakness."
-- 坦誠地講有多少人， 當你們想到做一些脆弱的事或說一些脆弱的話的時候，會覺得：天啊，脆弱就是軟弱，這就是軟弱？
How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously?
有多少人認為脆弱和軟弱是一回事？
The majority of people. Now let me ask you this question:
大部分人。現在我們這樣來問：
This past week at TED, how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here, thought it was pure courage?
在TED剛過去的這周，有多少人，當你們看到（我在這兒講）脆弱的時候，認為那是純粹的勇氣？
Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty.
脆弱不是軟弱。我把脆弱定義為：情感的風險、流露，以及不確定性。
It fuels our daily lives. And I've come to the belief -- this is my 12th year doing this research
它驅動我們的日常生活。并且我已經達成了這樣一種信念 -- 我已經研究這個課題12年了
-- that vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage -- to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen, to be honest.
-- 那就是，脆弱是對我們的勇氣最精確的衡量 -- 保留脆弱，開放自我，保持真誠。
One of the weird things that's happened is, after the TED explosion, I got a lot of offers to speak all over the country
有個奇怪的事就是 在TED這個演講轟動之后， 我收到全國各地的很多邀請
-- everyone from schools and parent meetings to Fortune 500 companies.
-- 從學校家長會 到世界500強的公司。
And so many of the calls went like this, "Dr. Brown, we loved your TED talk.
很多電話都是這樣的： “嗨，布朗博士，我們喜歡您的TED演講。
We'd like you to come in and speak. We'd appreciate it if you wouldn't mention vulnerability or shame."
我們想邀請您來講一講。 但有一件事 希望您不要提到脆弱或者羞恥。”
