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What Bendura is coming out against in much of his work is what has become known as the self esteem movement,
班德拉所做的大部分工作是反對人們稱為“自尊運動”的活動
or he's coming against what has become known as feel good movement. Alright, so tell a child how great they are, how wonderful they are.
或者說他反對的是被稱為“感覺良好運動”的活動。所謂的，告訴小孩他們有多好他們有多棒
Standing in front of a mirror every morning and tell yourself:
每天早上站在鏡子前對自己說
hi, gorgeous ten times, and then you will be more successful, your self esteem will be high and you'll be gorgeous.
“你好精神”十遍，你將更成功，你的自尊會提升，你會變得很好
It doesn't work, believe me it doesn't work.
這不管用，相信我，這不管用
I've tried everything. The thing though is that very often,
我都試過，實際上經常
it actually hurts in the long term, it actually hurts self esteem it actually hurts
事實上長期以往會造成傷害，會傷到自尊，它實際傷害了
the motivation of students who are constantly told you are wonderful, you are terrific no matter what.
那些學生的積極性，他們經常被夸獎說"你們很棒"，"你們都很了不起"
And we'll talk about how we can be more discerning with praise,
我們會講如何對贊揚更有辨識力
how we can praise in the right way when we talked about the work of Carol Dweck on mindsets in a few weeks.
如何正確地贊揚，在我們過幾周談論卡羅爾·德韋克關于心態的文章的時候
In the meantime, what Bendura showed, what Carol Dweck showed, what many others showed was that
同時班德拉表明，卡羅爾·德韋克表明，還有其他許多人都表明，這還不夠
it's not enough, very often, its even detrimental to just give the, you know, positive, positive talk, the positive affirmation.
通常情況，只給你積極的言論，積極的肯定，無論來自外部或內部
Whether it comes from the outside or from the inside, maybe part of the equation, certainly can't be all.
這甚至是有害的，這也許其中的一部分，但不是全部
What Bendura is saying, that rather than talk, we need action.
班德拉說的是，我們需要的是行動而不是空談
We need to put hard work into whatever it is, we want to be more confident about,
我們對任何事都要付出努力，我們想變得更自信，
and we need to cope. We need to put ourselves on the line. Very simple! Why?
就需要去應對，我們要把自己置于風險之上，很簡單，為什么?
Because hard work and coping inevitably leads to success,
因為努力和面對必然能獲得成功
more success at least than we had before, when we didn't act and we didn't cope.
至少比以前，以前不行動，不去面對時要成功
