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And the reason why coping, why putting ourselves on the line yields positive results in terms of the base level of wellbeing going up,
我們這么做的原因，是因為這樣能產生積極的影響，結果，幸福基準會上升
meaning still the ups and downs, but ups and downs looking this way
意思是仍然有起有落，但起伏是像這樣斜線上升的，
as opposed to around a straight line or a parallel line is that when we cope,
而不是在一條直線上或者平行線上徘徊，我們去面對時
we see ourselves coping, we see ourselves trying and through self perception theory, we derive certain conclusions about ourselves:
能想象我們的行動，想象自己在努力，通過自我知覺理論，我們對自己做某種總結
oh, I must be courageous; oh, I must be a person who has high self esteem;
我一定很勇敢，我一定是自尊心強的人
oh, I must be a person who has a strong desire to succeed and so on and so on.
我一定是非常渴望成功的人等等
And then we derive conclusions about ourselves in the same way that we derive conclusions about other people.
然后我們給自己做出的結論，就像我們給他人的結論一樣
That is self-perception theory.
這就是自我知覺理論
The second reason is that once we started failing more often, we realized that actually it's not that bad, it's not what we make it out to be.
第二個原因是一旦我們經常經歷失敗，我們會意識到那其實并不那么糟糕，不像我們想象的那么糟
The pain that in our minds we associate with failure is far greater that the actual pain of failure when that comes.
我們腦中想象的失敗的痛苦比實際的痛苦要多得多
Maybe not initially when it happens, but after a while;
也許不是即時的，而是稍后才感受到
and then we recover again, and we see, oh, I can deal with it, I must be a person with resilience.
當我們恢復后，就知道我能應付它，我一定是一個有適應力的人
And finally, there is more success as a result of coping. Learn to fail, or fail to learn, there is no other way to succeed.
最終，努力去面對后會有更多成功。學習失敗，或在失敗中學習，成功沒有其他途徑
