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And I may derive the conclusion about myself in exactly the same way.
我可能也是用同樣的方式推出關(guān)于自己的結(jié)論
By seeing myself behaving a certain way, I reach a conclusion about my self-esteem or benevolence or generosity or whatever it is.
通過觀察自己某些方式的行為，我會(huì)得到關(guān)于自己自尊或者仁慈或者慷慨或者其他方面的結(jié)論
Self perception theory. And if I cope, if I try things out then I see that this is a person with courage.
自我知覺理論，如果我面對(duì)了，我嘗試了那我就認(rèn)為這是一個(gè)有勇氣的人
This is a person who tries. And my conclusion about myself would be oh, I must have high self-esteem.
這是一個(gè)敢于嘗試的人得到關(guān)于自己的結(jié)論就是我肯定有很高的自尊
And my self-esteem as well as happiness level overtime will actually increase.
我的自尊還有幸福水平久而久之就會(huì)上升
Self perception theory. We derive conclusion about ourselves in the same way we derive conclusion about others.
自我知覺理論。我們得出關(guān)于自己的結(jié)論和我們得出關(guān)于他人的結(jié)論的方式是一樣的
Meaning by looking at behavior.
就是通過觀察行為
When we fail after coping we realize that the actual pain
我們?cè)诿鎸?duì)失敗后會(huì)意識(shí)到
that comes with failure is far less than the pain we imagine and that we associate with failure.
真正來自于失敗的痛苦遠(yuǎn)小于我們想象的，我們認(rèn)為與失敗有關(guān)的痛苦
Oh, I just got over it. Okay, so I didn't do well in here or she said no. but I got over it.
我克服失敗，是的，我是沒做好或者她是拒絕了我，但我克服了
Whereas I imagine it in my mind I think it'll last forever.
但我一直在想的話，我就會(huì)認(rèn)為它將一直持續(xù)
Just like those tenured or not tenured professors thought that their pay will last forever whereas it goes away.
正如那些終身職位或者非終身職位的教授以為他們的薪水將永遠(yuǎn)不變，其實(shí)并非如此
So when I realize the pain of actual failure is far less than the pain associated with failure,
所以當(dāng)我意識(shí)到實(shí)際上的痛苦比和失敗有關(guān)的痛苦遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)要小時(shí)
I become more confident. I can handle it.
我變得更自信了，我能應(yīng)付了
I'm actually much more resilient than I thought I was.
我實(shí)際上比自己想象中要更有適應(yīng)力
And my self-esteem increases.
我的自尊水平上升了
My happiness as a result increases too.
我的快樂水平也隨之升高
And finally there is more success because there is no other way to succeed. There is no other way in terms of learning how to walk.
最后還有更多的成功，因?yàn)槌晒e無二法。學(xué)習(xí)走路沒有別的方法
There is no other way in terms of succeeding in art or in science or in business or in politics.
在藝術(shù)上或科學(xué)上或商業(yè)上或政治上取得成功沒有別的方法
Learn to fail or fail to learn. I'll see you on Thursday.
學(xué)習(xí)失敗，從失敗中學(xué)習(xí)，我們星期四再見
