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Thank you so much for that, Helen. As you know, there's another speaker here with us that works in your same field.
感謝您的演講，海倫。今天還有另一位演講者，她和您在相同的領域里做研究。
She comes at it from a different perspective. Esther Perel is a psychotherapist who works with couples.
不過是從不同的視角來分析問題。誒斯特·佩雷斯從事情侶心理治療師的工作。
You study data, Esther studies the stories the couples tell her when they come to her for help.
您研究數據，誒斯特研究那些向她尋求幫助的情侶們所訴說的故事。
Let's have her join us on the stage. Esther?
現在請她上臺吧，有請誒斯特。
So Esther, when you were watching Helen's talk,
誒斯特，當您觀看海倫演講的時候，
was there any part of it that resonated with you through the lens of your own work that you'd like to comment on?
是否有和您所做的工作產生共鳴的地方，您可以和我們說說嘛？
It's interesting, because on the one hand, the need for love is ubiquitous and universal.
讓我覺得有意思的地方是，一方面人們對愛的需求無所不在，無所不及。
But the way we love -- the meaning we make out of it -- the rules that govern our relationships, I think, are changing fundamentally.
但人類愛的方式，愛與被愛背后的意義，以及控制雙方關系的規則，正在發生根本性的改變。
We come from a model that, until now, was primarily regulated around duty and obligation, the needs of the collective and loyalty.
直到最近，我們一直處于一種模式，即主要由責任和義務，集體和忠誠主義支配的模式。
And we have shifted it to a model of free choice and individual rights, and self-fulfillment and happiness.
而現在，我們轉向了另一種模式，即追崇自主選擇，個人權利，自我實現與幸福的模式。
And so, that was the first thing I thought, that the need doesn't change,
這是我腦子里冒出的第一個想法，愛的需求沒有改變，
but the context and the way we regulate these relationships changes a lot.
但大環境和人們處理情感關系的方式發生了很大的變化。
On the paradox of choice -- you know, on the one hand we relish the novelty and the playfulness, I think, to be able to have so many options.
關于選擇悖論，我認為，一方面我們追求多重選擇給我們帶來的新鮮感和趣味性。
And at the same time, as you talk about this cognitive overload,
同時，就像你提到的“認知負荷”，
I see many, many people who ... who dread the uncertainty and self-doubt that comes with this massa of choice,
我看到許多人對堆砌成堆的選項所帶來的不確定性和不自信而感到擔憂，
creating a case of "FOMO" and then leading us -- FOMO, fear of missed opportunity, or fear of missing out
從而制造出某種“害怕錯過的恐懼癥”，于是便引領我們-- “FOMO”，表現為害怕機會流失，
it's like, "How do I know I have found 'the one' -- the right one?"
就好比“我怎么知道這個人就是我命中注定的那一個呢？”
