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So it began to occur to me: during this long extension of the precommitment stage,
于是我突然想到：在這個長期婚前準備期，
if you can get rid of bad relationships before you marry, maybe we're going to see more happy marriages.
如果你在婚前擺脫了一段糟糕的情感關系，或許就會有更多美滿的婚姻。
So I did a study of 1,100 married people in America -- not on Match.com, of course -- and I asked them a lot of questions.
于是，我研究了美國1100位已婚人士，當然不是在 Match.com上，我問了很多問題。
But one of the questions was, "Would you re-marry the person you're currently married to?" And 81 percent said, "Yes."
其中一個是，如果再給你一次機會，你還會選擇和現在的伴侶結婚嗎？81%的人說，會！
In fact, the greatest change in modern romance and family life is not technology. It's not even slow love.
事實上，當今的情感和家庭生活最大的變化不是科技造成的，甚至也不是“慢慢愛”的結果。
It's actually women piling into the job market in cultures around the world.
而是在全世界范圍內，大量女性進入職場的結果。
For millions of years, our ancestors lived in little hunting and gathering groups.
幾百萬年以來，我們的祖先都生活在小型捕獵采集社會。
Women commuted to work to gather their fruits and vegetables.
女性外出忙于采摘水果和蔬菜。
They came home with 60 to 80 percent of the evening meal.
餐桌上60%~80%的食物是由她們帶回來的。
The double-income family was the rule.
雙份收入家庭是一般法則。
And women were regarded as just as economically, socially and sexually powerful as men.
女性不論在經濟、社會，還是性方面，都和男性具有同等的地位。
Then the environment changed some 10,000 years ago,
然而大約1萬年前，社會發生了變化
we began to settle down on the farm and both men and women became obliged, really, to marry the right person,
人類開始以農耕為主，男女似乎有義務尋找合適的人結婚，
from the right background, from the right religion and from the right kin and social and political connections.
對方必須有匹配的背景，宗教信仰，相稱的家族、社會及政治關聯。
Men's jobs became more important: they had to move the rocks, fell the trees, plow the land.
男性的工作變得更為重要：他們必須搬運大石、砍樹、耕地。
They brought the produce to local markets, and came home with the equivalent of money.
他們把農產品帶到市場上賣，換回來同等的錢。
