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And even though we might help them achieve some short-term wins by overhelping
即使我們可以通過這種過度幫助來讓他們獲得一些短期的成功
like they get a better grade if we help them do their homework,
比如幫他們做作業(yè)而拿到的好成績，
they might end up with a longer childhood résumé when we help
在我們的幫助下，他們可能會有一個更好看的童年簡歷，
what I'm saying is that all of this comes at a long-term cost to their sense of self.
我要說的是，這些會讓他們在自我認知上付出長期的代價。
What I'm saying is, we should be less concerned with the specific set of colleges they might be able to apply to or might get into
我要說的是，我們應該更少關注具體哪些名牌大學他們應該申請或進入，
and far more concerned that they have the habits, the mindset, the skill set, the wellness, to be successful wherever they go.
而更多關注他們的習慣、心態(tài)、技能、身心健康，有了這些，他們才能在哪兒都成功。
What I'm saying is, our kids need us to be a little less obsessed with grades and scores
我要說的是，孩子需要我們少一點癡迷于成績和分數(shù)，
and a whole lot more interested in childhood providing a foundation for their success built on things like love and chores.
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Did I just say chores? Did I just say chores? I really did. But really, here's why.
我剛才是說做家務么？確實是的。說真的，這是有理由的。
The longest longitudinal study of humans ever conducted is called the Harvard Grant Study.
史上歷時最長的人類研究被稱作哈弗格蘭特研究。
It found that professional success in life, which is what we want for our kids,
這項研究發(fā)現(xiàn)，專業(yè)上的成功，也就是我們期望孩子達到的，
that professional success in life comes from having done chores as a kid,
取決于小時候做的雜活，
and the earlier you started, the better, that a roll-up-your-sleeves- and-pitch-in mindset,
越早開始越好，這種挽起袖子開干的心態(tài)，
a mindset that says, there's some unpleasant work, someone's got to do it,
這種心態(tài)代表著：可能有些不想做的工作，總要有人去完成它，
it might as well be me, a mindset that says, I will contribute my effort to the betterment of the whole,
這個人也可能就是我，這種心態(tài)代表著：我會盡力去改善整件事情，
that that's what gets you ahead in the workplace. Now, we all know this. You know this.
這就是讓你在工作中獲得先機的東西。我們都清楚這個道理，你們也都清楚。
